Caslina Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Hi, I started dating a guy whom I found out has had divorced twice (the last one recently) and has a daughter. You all must think I'm crazy but when we are together he is really nice and we dated 4 times. Then he stopped asking me out. But he keeps texting me. He says that he spends the weekend with his daughter or business trips. I'm just wondering is he going to ever ask me out. I tried asking him out but he always had plans. When I almost give up he keeps initiating contact and sending me his lunch pictures etc. Now it's almost a month since the last time we last went out. I'm feeling more confused and deeply hurt. Is he not ready for relationship or just stringing me along for attention. I'm in my early 30s he's early 50s. Appreciate if anyone could give me good advise. Oh btw, we haven't had full on sex but we make out and have great chemistry. He is still flirting with me..
mammasita Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 How many times have you tried asking him out? Once? Try one more time. More than once?......forget him, he's not into you. 2
Author Caslina Posted September 2, 2016 Author Posted September 2, 2016 More than once... Why can't he just disappear then. *sigh
Els Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 More than once... Why can't he just disappear then. *sigh You have the full power to make him disappear (not literally, but from your life), you know... 1
mammasita Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 More than once... Why can't he just disappear then. *sigh You can't make him do anything, all you can do is control your actions. Block, ignore, delete. Problem solved. 1
Redhead14 Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Hi, I started dating a guy whom I found out has had divorced twice (the last one recently) and has a daughter. You all must think I'm crazy but when we are together he is really nice and we dated 4 times. Then he stopped asking me out. But he keeps texting me. He says that he spends the weekend with his daughter or business trips. I'm just wondering is he going to ever ask me out. I tried asking him out but he always had plans. When I almost give up he keeps initiating contact and sending me his lunch pictures etc. Now it's almost a month since the last time we last went out. I'm feeling more confused and deeply hurt. Is he not ready for relationship or just stringing me along for attention. I'm in my early 30s he's early 50s. Appreciate if anyone could give me good advise. Oh btw, we haven't had full on sex but we make out and have great chemistry. He is still flirting with me.. Have you heard the term -- Back Burner Girl -- that's you. He's keeping you on a string, making sure you're still there, for when it's convenient for HIM. He's made that clear by not accepting your invitations. He's not good dating material . . . don't respond anymore. Let it go.
preraph Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 I wouldn't assume he wasn't still involved with his ex. Or even still married. Anyway, assuming what he says is true and he's not involved with the ex or still with her, he's not making time for a woman, being you, so that could also be why his wife dumped him.
ThisisIt606 Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Pictures of his lunch? Gross and who cares. Means nothing . He's keeping you around for entertainment
leogirl876 Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Yep, what everyone else has said. He's probably seeing other people and keeping you interested just enough just in case the others don't work out. Next him!!!
Author Caslina Posted September 3, 2016 Author Posted September 3, 2016 5 years old. I understand he have to meet his daughter and he's busy but he is not making anytime for me at all. Should I just ask him directly? If he plans to meet me at all
BaileyB Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 He's clearly demonstrated that he is not interested. If he was interested, he would make the effort to see you... Not just send you random texts. I'm dating someone with a child. He is coparenting with his ex - he still finds plenty of time to see me. You have the power to make him go away. Stop responding. Delete his number. You are in control. Decide that you deserve more than this - move on and find someone who will treat you the way you should be treated.
smackie9 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 5 years old. I understand he have to meet his daughter and he's busy but he is not making anytime for me at all. Should I just ask him directly? If he plans to meet me at all Good lord let him go. Even if he is way too busy obviously he hasn't the time you expect out of someone for a relationship. Like I always say date those who treat you the way you want to be treated....stay away from guys who string you along. Save
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