cholee Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 So my ex and I dated off and on for over a year our relationship was quite unsteady mainly on my part because I was going through so much. I moved about 4hours away from my home town in the beginning of June and we broke up officially in March but we still continued to hang out a lot and hookup, up until I moved away. When I first got up here he continued to text me and we talked on the phone a few times mainly in a sexual manor. I kept trying to push him away because I knew holding on was doing more damage then good because I missed him so much. He told me he had hooked up with someone about a month after I left which cut me deep and he told me it made him realize even more how much he still had feelings for me? I again pushed him away and told him we need to move on etc.(I was thinking if he cared about me he wouldn't of hooked up with someone so soon and or we would be in a long distance relationship) I went back to visit my hometown over a month ago and I didn't make time to see him because I just didn't think it was a good idea and we had not spoken in several weeks. After I returned home he went on vacation and again we didn't speak for another couple of weeks then when he got back I got a notification he had added me to snapchat but didn't text me or anything he then deleted me off snapchat a week later. I had one two many drinks one night and called him and we talked for about an hour. A couple of weeks later he re adds me to snapchat and sends me a few snaps (some of his ) then again deletes me .... then just re added me again to snapchat and sends me a few snaps out of nowhere of his and we messaged a little back and forth on snapchat he then deleted me AGAIN. I had enough so I texted him telling him to please stop re adding me to snapchat and sending me pics its immature and he denied doing so.. He said I sent you pics while ago not recently .. I said it was two nights ago you snapchatted me? he denied doing so and I said whatever it doesn't matter just please stop doing so I want nothing to do with you and his response was Cool you didn't need to message me that. I just don't understand why he kept re adding me constantly and then denying sending me pics he doesn't drink so I know he wasn't drunk. I feel like I'm in a good place although yes I still think about him and a part of me does still care and miss him I know it's best we don't communicate I then changed my snapchat and phone number. I shouldn't of had to have done that though. 1
sooshi Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Block him everywhere. Then he won't be able to send you messages or pictures anymore, and you'll finally be able to start healing from the end of the relationship. Take care. 3
marky00 Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 (edited) This social media stuff happens sometimes. I think sometimes its just co-incidence. Like for instance if people get a new phone or phone number or w/e ull get a notification from the IM application that you just got added as a friend or w/e. Ive been NC for like 25 days and yes at around day 10-15, I was getting weird notifications almost everyday. Was definitely suspicious but just leave it there. If there really is some intent behind it, once you don't react to it, they would need to do something more significant to get your attention. The best strategy for social media, is leave your account there, don't block but just remove the apps from your phone etc. That way, you basically dropping of planet earth from the day of the break-up with never one update or notification or nothing. They won't know if your suicidal or dating a prince and that unknown is the little thing you need to hold onto for yourself. Edited September 2, 2016 by marky00 1
aloneinaz Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 I'm confused? Lots of drama for no reason. If you're done w/each other, why not leave each other alone? You have the power to take control and block him or change your phone number. I get that we all get lonely and horney but revisiting w/a past BF only creates the drama and BS you're posting about. Personally, you should spend this energy and time on meeting new people to date and go out with. Start off fresh in this new town vs. digging up the past over and over and over again.. 1
Satu Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 You need to mend your fences. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means he might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete him from all social media. *No monitoring of him on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying. Take care.
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