leogirl876 Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 Another OLD question. I hear men complain all the time that they write messages to women and the women don't respond back. If I like the guy's profile and find him attractive, I write back usually within 12-24 hours. My question is, why are there some guys that will send a message, I respond, and then they don't respond back. Why are you writing to me to begin with? And another thing, where are there some men on there that just wanna message back and forth but don't take the initiative to ask out for a date? Ugh, so many annoying games and weird people! 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 Another OLD question. I hear men complain all the time that they write messages to women and the women don't respond back. If I like the guy's profile and find him attractive, I write back usually within 12-24 hours. My question is, why are there some guys that will send a message, I respond, and then they don't respond back. Why are you writing to me to begin with? And another thing, where are there some men on there that just wanna message back and forth but don't take the initiative to ask out for a date? Ugh, so many annoying games and weird people! Look. YES to all of your questions. People don't respond b/c they are not interested and don't feel the need to waste time responding thusly. I put in my profile "if I do not respond, it is b/c I am not interested." NO ONE is obligated to respond. In fact, if your response if going to be rude, then please don't. Some men are playing games. Some are taken or married and have no intention of responding or eventually meeting. Some create profiles that are fake or the pics are and the fantasy is all they will ever achieve, is as powerful for them as the real thing knowing that they could never get an attractive or "that" woman in person. Yes, all kinds of "interesting" people out there with motives of their own. 1
Author leogirl876 Posted September 1, 2016 Author Posted September 1, 2016 Look. YES to all of your questions. People don't respond b/c they are not interested and don't feel the need to waste time responding thusly. I put in my profile "if I do not respond, it is b/c I am not interested." NO ONE is obligated to respond. In fact, if your response if going to be rude, then please don't. Some men are playing games. Some are taken or married and have no intention of responding or eventually meeting. Some create profiles that are fake or the pics are and the fantasy is all they will ever achieve, is as powerful for them as the real thing knowing that they could never get an attractive or "that" woman in person. Yes, all kinds of "interesting" people out there with motives of their own. I'm talking about men that send me a message first, then don't respond when I respond to them. It's not like I'm reaching out to them first. There's plenty of messages I don't respond to because I'm not interested, but I didn't send them a message first. People are so weird!
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 I'm talking about men that send me a message first, then don't respond when I respond to them. It's not like I'm reaching out to them first. There's plenty of messages I don't respond to because I'm not interested, but I didn't send them a message first. People are so weird! Oh, well, that still applies to taken or married men. Also, they received interested from someone much more interesting. Common.
katiegrl Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 I'm talking about men that send me a message first, then don't respond when I respond to them. It's not like I'm reaching out to them first. There's plenty of messages I don't respond to because I'm not interested, but I didn't send them a message first. People are so weird! I can only guess as I don't do OLD, but perhaps they never had any intention of corresponding with you or asking you out.... they just send tons of messages to various women to see how many will respond (thus finding them attractive)... to build up their egos. Could be married or otherwise unavailable. Just a guess.
h0000 Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 I'm talking about men that send me a message first, then don't respond when I respond to them. It's not like I'm reaching out to them first. There's plenty of messages I don't respond to because I'm not interested, but I didn't send them a message first. People are so weird! They have someone else they are more interested to message. Or they changed their mind about you. Or they were just bored when they messaged you. Millions of reasons. Why so irritated? 1
Author leogirl876 Posted September 1, 2016 Author Posted September 1, 2016 They have someone else they are more interested to message. Or they changed their mind about you. Or they were just bored when they messaged you. Millions of reasons. Why so irritated? Just curious as to people's reasons.
Toodaloo Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 POF Help Center - Help Creating The Right Message We have all spoken about it but here is a link to the help centre at pof... they basically say the same as we all do... But the crux is if they don't respond, don't bother wasting your time thinking about it. 2
LookAtThisPOst Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 "if I do not respond, it is b/c I am not interested Ah, the ol' "If I don't respond, it means I'm not interested" disclaimer. I usually don't first email women that have this in their profile, because I think, "Why bother?" It sends an "It's over before its started" message. 1
SwordofFlame Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Another OLD question. I hear men complain all the time that they write messages to women and the women don't respond back. If I like the guy's profile and find him attractive, I write back usually within 12-24 hours. My question is, why are there some guys that will send a message, I respond, and then they don't respond back. Why are you writing to me to begin with? And another thing, where are there some men on there that just wanna message back and forth but don't take the initiative to ask out for a date? Ugh, so many annoying games and weird people! I do this a lot. It's usually due to taking a more detailed review of your profile and determining we're not a match or I had better options at the moment.
Michelle ma Belle Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 But the crux is if they don't respond, don't bother wasting your time thinking about it. This about covers it. There is zero point trying to decipher every detail of OLD because in the end, none of it makes any sense and it so often is so very random. Truly. 1
angel.eyes Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 I'm talking about men that send me a message first, then don't respond when I respond to them. It's not like I'm reaching out to them first. There's plenty of messages I don't respond to because I'm not interested, but I didn't send them a message first. People are so weird! Some guys just spray everyone with messages. When they get a response back, then they look at your profile and figure out whether they're even interested. For others, they reached out in good faith, but have since changed their mind, they're no longer using the site, they met someone, they got inundated at work and are slow getting to their messages that week, etc. Don't worry about what strangers do or why. Just do you. If someone interests you, keep going until it fizzles or results in a date. That was my approach. I'm happy with my experience. 1
Shining One Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 I hear men complain all the time that they write messages to women and the women don't respond back. If I like the guy's profile and find him attractive, I write back usually within 12-24 hours.I imagine that the men who complain about not getting responses are not the men you're messaging.My question is, why are there some guys that will send a message, I respond, and then they don't respond back. Why are you writing to me to begin with?To expand on what katiegrl said, some men use the "shotgun" approach. They will initially message a large group of women, wait for responses, and then correspond with the "best" of those who replied to them.
preraph Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Because they're either dorks who don't have enough nerve to follow through or they're kids on there just goofing around, or they're married or taken guys who had a short window of time to cheat on their spouses or girlfriends and hoped to stir up some ego validation or sexy talk or a quick and free hookup. So never waste time thinking further about them. And remember there are profile examples online a lot of guys copy and use because their own doesn't net them any women. 1
joseb Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 To expand on what katiegrl said, some men use the "shotgun" approach. They will initially message a large group of women, wait for responses, and then correspond with the "best" of those who replied to them. Yeah I guess it's like the tinder swipe right on everything 'strategy' some guys use, and only look at the profile and decide if they message on a match. It's probably the least likely reason, but it could be that your reply is pretty dull - if I get a 'hey' message I might not bother replying unless the writer looks really hot
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