Sdives Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 I’m interested In this girl that works the desk at the gym. She used to have her Facebook with tons of photos of her and her BF, Captions stating them in totally in love and such. We have mutual friends on FB and I have never added her. I don’t stalk her FB but it seems now their couple photos are all gone like no traces of anything. The intro statements about how in love they are in are gone. Her relationship status says “ no info to show”. The relationship started in 2014. She says she's Female and interested in men. He is still on her friends list. They only reason why I new he was the BF was the photos that were plastered everywhere until recently .All her photos are selfies and with her GF's. He has only one photo of them on his FB and nothing else. All this year I see stealing glances at me. I once chatted her up but she kind blew me off. I knew she had a BF already. Lately her demeanor is different and she says high to me allot, she’s less defensive of when we talk. The minute she was nice …I felt she has likely broken up with him and is now nicer to me.There was a change in tone and friendliness Is this typical I mean with all this stuff missing on FB a good indicator they broke up? Is she likely on the market again and looking? Is this what people do? I mean her social media is absent from him 100% If you looked at it now you would not guess he was her BF, or ever was at one point. There's no trace of anything that he was her BF or exBF Your thoughts? Im' suspicious that she maybe be single
Ami1uwant Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 It sounds like they are single when she removed their couples pics. Is she ready to date..I don't know. This is where you talk to mutual friends and find out some stuff on her.
smudge21 Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 Ignore social media. Forget you even have it or have seen her on there. Treat her like you would any stranger who you like and would like to get to know more. Don't go in there pre-armed with "I've stalked your FB and believe your single so thought I'd try my luck" attitude, as that's just clearly f'd up. Forget all you know about her and just speak to her. Crikey, I worry for the world sometimes!!! 2
mikeylo Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 Dude, I checked your old posts. It's the same old story.
basil67 Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 This is the girl who's 21 and 15 years younger than you, right? I'm not trying to be rude here, but have you considered that she may not be interested in dating someone who's so much older than her? Anyway, I wouldn't imagine she's interested because of the age difference. She just sounds like a nice, friendly girl. You do know that being friendly is part of her job, yes? 3
mortensorchid Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 If you want to know, ask her if she has a bf or not. You can't go by social media unless it specifically says that the person is "in a relationship" or "in a relationship with (name)" ( Unless it says something that is obviously a joke like "in a relationship with my hand or Mickey Mouse"). She could reject you, or she could say yes. You will never know unless you take a chance. Afraid of rejection? Well, yes we all are. It's lousy but that's life.
Author Sdives Posted September 2, 2016 Author Posted September 2, 2016 The reason for my question is that I am not as into social media as others are and curious if my observations are correct and how do people use SM for this kinda stuff. We have mutual friends I looked at her profile long time back like February, confirmed she had some guy, so I never bothered with it. Her profile came back around and I looked again, this guy seems to be gone MIA. I work insane amounts so maybe if I have five minutes I'll say something People always ask me why I never makes FB posts or updates. I dunno I just dont.
Author Sdives Posted September 2, 2016 Author Posted September 2, 2016 This is the girl who's 21 and 15 years younger than you, right? I'm not trying to be rude here, but have you considered that she may not be interested in dating someone who's so much older than her? Anyway, I wouldn't imagine she's interested because of the age difference. She just sounds like a nice, friendly girl. You do know that being friendly is part of her job, yes? Its never been an issue I look like I'm 25 still. Im aging unusually slow. My mother is the same way. I'm not bragging or BSing anyone. I'm just slower in the aging department, its been this way my whole life. No grey hairs, no wrinkles, not balding or any hair loss, No gut. fair skinned blue eyed dirty blonde nordic type. My friends all have the aging signs. I still don't for some reason
Author Sdives Posted September 2, 2016 Author Posted September 2, 2016 Ignore social media. Forget you even have it or have seen her on there. Treat her like you would any stranger who you like and would like to get to know more. Don't go in there pre-armed with "I've stalked your FB and believe your single so thought I'd try my luck" attitude, as that's just clearly f'd up. Forget all you know about her and just speak to her. Crikey, I worry for the world sometimes!!! I should have quoted this. I posted the reply down low.
Author Sdives Posted September 2, 2016 Author Posted September 2, 2016 It sounds like they are single when she removed their couples pics. Is she ready to date..I don't know. This is where you talk to mutual friends and find out some stuff on her. She's been friendlier to me lately. I know she world there but there sees to be less of a wall there when we talk if that makes sense.
Lansing Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Just ask her out to something casual. Maybe start talking about her time off/ how her weekend was, etc and then get a sense of what she likes. Mention that you are doing so and so and see if she wants to join. No need to know for 100% certainty that she has a BF before you ask. Just get the ask over with so that you know if she is interested or not. If she isn't, you can move on.
Author Sdives Posted September 2, 2016 Author Posted September 2, 2016 Just ask her out to something casual. Maybe start talking about her time off/ how her weekend was, etc and then get a sense of what she likes. Mention that you are doing so and so and see if she wants to join. No need to know for 100% certainty that she has a BF before you ask. Just get the ask over with so that you know if she is interested or not. If she isn't, you can move on. I will eventually most likely, but I havent seen here for awhile I want to see if a boyfriend comes up in conversation first. Like if she mentions it or some thing like that in passing. Thats the first step
basil67 Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Its never been an issue I look like I'm 25 still. Im aging unusually slow. My mother is the same way. I'm not bragging or BSing anyone. I'm just slower in the aging department, its been this way my whole life. No grey hairs, no wrinkles, not balding or any hair loss, No gut. fair skinned blue eyed dirty blonde nordic type. My friends all have the aging signs. I still don't for some reason I wasn't thinking of your appearance. I was thinking of your point in life. I can't imagine on what points a young girl would connect with someone so much older.
mortensorchid Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Well then all that about social media aside, you should still ask her if she does or doesn't have a bf. Or ask others if she does or doesn't. What do you have to loose? I even asked a mutual friend if this guy I was interested in had a gf or not, even though his Facebook at the time said he did not. Plus if he was strait or not. I got shot down when I approached, but once I had the green light it was safe. Take the chance or you will never know.
Author Sdives Posted September 3, 2016 Author Posted September 3, 2016 I wasn't thinking of your appearance. I was thinking of your point in life. I can't imagine on what points a young girl would connect with someone so much older. While this is true for some reason I'm still considered in the 20 something crowd. The only thing I can do is get to know her and see what happens. We males like younger women... that's the way it is. People throw out cliches supporting all sides, "Old enough to be her father" or "age is just a number" and all that. I'll see what happens as it goes
Author Sdives Posted September 3, 2016 Author Posted September 3, 2016 Well then all that about social media aside, you should still ask her if she does or doesn't have a bf. Or ask others if she does or doesn't. What do you have to loose? I even asked a mutual friend if this guy I was interested in had a gf or not, even though his Facebook at the time said he did not. Plus if he was strait or not. I got shot down when I approached, but once I had the green light it was safe. Take the chance or you will never know. Sorry... what? shot down? then the green light? Im not sure what you mean. I'll start with small talk
preraph Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Its never been an issue I look like I'm 25 still. Im aging unusually slow. My mother is the same way. I'm not bragging or BSing anyone. I'm just slower in the aging department, its been this way my whole life. No grey hairs, no wrinkles, not balding or any hair loss, No gut. fair skinned blue eyed dirty blonde nordic type. My friends all have the aging signs. I still don't for some reason Trust me, you do not still look 25. And anyway, it's not all about how you look. It's about you being old and her being young, you being from a different generation and her being at a different, much different, life stage. Why is it middle aged guys always think they look the same as they did at their prime? It's literally never true. 1
Author Sdives Posted September 3, 2016 Author Posted September 3, 2016 Trust me, you do not still look 25. And anyway, it's not all about how you look. It's about you being old and her being young, you being from a different generation and her being at a different, much different, life stage. Why is it middle aged guys always think they look the same as they did at their prime? It's literally never true. Yes I do trust me I'm a unusual excpetion to the rule
Author Sdives Posted September 4, 2016 Author Posted September 4, 2016 bumping the thread to hear what others say. Is this what happens when people break up? the diminishing signs on the FB
basil67 Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Yes, it's likely she has broken up with him.
preraph Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Yes I do trust me I'm a unusual excpetion to the rule Whether you look it or not, you can't act it. There's no faking that. 1
basil67 Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Whether you look it or not, you can't act it. There's no faking that. Actually, I've known a handful of women who have been attracted to significantly older men who act younger than their age. Without fail, the women ended up outgrowing the guys emotionally and found themselves resenting the very thing which attracted them in the first place. By the time the women were in their thirties, they wanted a mature companion - not a permanent 21yo. 1
preraph Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Actually, I've known a handful of women who have been attracted to significantly older men who act younger than their age. Without fail, the women ended up outgrowing the guys emotionally and found themselves resenting the very thing which attracted them in the first place. By the time the women were in their thirties, they wanted a mature companion - not a permanent 21yo. Because the guys have arrested development, which is why they can't seem to date women their own age to begin with. But if this guy really seemed 25 or looked it he would have all these problems for all this time. The problem is something stopped him from maturing past a certain point, and when he's 80, he'll still be trying to get older teens and early 20s women. 1
Author Sdives Posted September 5, 2016 Author Posted September 5, 2016 Yes, it's likely she has broken up with him. That's what I think too. She's also friendlier to me all of a sudden. I intend to get acquainted with her and see if she is a cool person. My thoughts were if there is any know common reason why people change the relationship status from having someone listed to "no info to show"? that sounds like being demoted what other reasons would there be? So I think you are right. I'm not arrested development type guy. I have may act together, finance professional MBA'd. Home owner with no mortgage I flipped out a few homes before the market tanked. I take care of myself big time. I spent a boatload on skincare , working out and healthy living, looking fashionable. I'm one of those types of guys .. metro types. People say I have the energy and vibe of a young 20's something. Im not special, Im just an exception as many men, don't take care of themselves like I do, I have good genes. I know the pop culture of what young people like.
Author Sdives Posted September 5, 2016 Author Posted September 5, 2016 Yes, it's likely she has broken up with him. Also I cant really ask, I need to find more signs that she is single.
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