carlosb7792 Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Well I'm back to make another post. For those who read my previous post understand the story and for new readers this is the long story short. So I dated his girl for 3 months. She said she hadn't dated anyone in over a year and I haven't felt this way about a female in over 6 years. Everything was good, we clicked instantly on our first date. Our personality clicked and we got comfortable around each other FAST. After a month she caught me on tidner and I explained why. Told her that since I'm in the military and I'm moving back home when I get out so I was unsure on what I wanted. Me personally I think people are obligated to see others after a month of dating. After that we continued our routine or talking everyday hanging out every weekend. One day she asked "what's going on with us?" I told her I was leaning on being in a reallyRelationship. Still continued to talk and hangout every weekend. We hung out for our bday week and of course our bday. She brought it up again and I told her "I want to be i in a relationship". 2 weeks later she called it off. One day it was "I'm done it's too late" then 2 hours later it was "I'm in pain can you take care of me?" The next day she called it off. I made a couple of attempts (bought her flowers) but I made those attempts to show her I care. 2 weeks went by and I reached out and she said she'll think about. Next week she called it off saying no second chance. 3 weeks of NO CONTACT has open my eyes. I respect her decision and understand. I do feel like reaching out next week but as a friend. I do want this work out but she said "no" and I have to be a man and respect that. I felt like she was moving fast and I was taking things at a moderate pace. So because of that she probably felt like I was stringing her along which I never did. I apologized for my actions. It was hard to give up because I'm a fighter and I believe you should fight for what you want and not give up. I still believe god bring us together so can we be together and this is just a hiccup. Besides me being unsure at the beginning I felt like I didn't to anything wrong? Im open to all opinions and any advice on if I should reach out or continue to move on and hope she reaches out.
smudge21 Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 I came into this reading that you'd been NC for 22 days and that you were feeling better, but by the end of the message you are clearly just living in hope.. that'll she'll come back if you remain NC. Or that you should reach out to her. This isn't healing my friend, it's waiting. NC is to heal you, get you back to where you were before an ex came along. It isn't to make them miss you and then live in hope that they'll come running back. Nor is it a temporary pause for you only to reach out after a few weeks and hope, once again, that they'll come running into your arms. It's to heal, get over someone, move on, become a better, stronger person. Stay on that NC path but let go of the hope as all it does is stop you letting go.
Author carlosb7792 Posted September 1, 2016 Author Posted September 1, 2016 You right, you right! You make a solid point and I appreciate but other then that I have been doing. At the end of the day everything is in her hands and god so I'll that take the course. I've been focusing on me back into the gym and boxing. Im not using NC to hope that she comes back. It'll be nice but that's not up to me.
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