kyl3th0mas Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 So me and my girlfriend have been together for about 2 month now, and we barely spend time with each other. our first three dates together were great we spent a lot of time with each other those days and she didn't head home all 3 days till 11 or 12 am. the next day she came over she left abruptly at around 8pm, no warning no excuse just see ya! i was confused thought she was mad at me, but didnt think anything of it, but ever since then we spend an hour maybe 2 together once or twice a week then she leaves same time everyday. I was getting frustrated so i asked her why, she said that she had to take care of padme (her dog) and she had other responsibilities, when i asked to to elaborate she just brushes it off and says she trying to make time. I've told her she is more than welcome to bring her dog over anytime, (she has once or twice) but now its back to the same routine of excuses. i've asked her if she has problems or restrictions at home just to see if she lives in a strict household (she is 26, and was married before) she just again makes up excuses or brushes it off. on one occasion my mom came to town and was staying with my aunt and my girlfriend wanted to meet them so we set something up, she drove 30 minutes to my apartment sat there for like 5 minutes then with no warning said her mom needed her to go grocery shopping and she just left no kiss no nothing.... I was confused and upset and she didn't even apologize or even seem to care. we even work together so we have same days off, and she spends her whole day at home then spends an hour or two (if not at all) with me then heads home around 8pm and its a weekend... She claims she loves me and cares a lot about me, but i feel like she is all talk at this point, i don't know what to do because i really like her, but i'm feeling like the chemistry is dying because of this, can anyone shed light on this or have any advice? am i wrong to want more time to spend with her, ive been clear on what i want is this relationship (long term) im not a casual dater. she agrees but still acts the same......very confused
angel.eyes Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 From your description, it seems she is doing all the commuting in the relationship. Do you ever go to her? 2
basil67 Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 I agree with Angel.Eyes that is sounds like you're doing very little in the way of travelling to her. How often do you go to her place to chill for the evening? 1
GemmaUK Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 How old are you and how many relationships have you had?
Author kyl3th0mas Posted August 31, 2016 Author Posted August 31, 2016 I have asked her to hang out at her house but she says its better that we hang at my place.
Author kyl3th0mas Posted August 31, 2016 Author Posted August 31, 2016 im 29 and ive had about 2 serious relationships, i admit i dont have much experience
basil67 Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 In that case, just move on. It's only been two months and you already aren't happy with her, so just bite the bullet and end it. 1
Gaeta Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 im 29 and ive had about 2 serious relationships, i admit i dont have much experience But you have enough experience to know that this is not a 'relationship'. If I were you I would not invest another minute in this well with no bottom. 1
Romantic Gentleman Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Do you two go out a lot since those first three dates? Maybe she doesn't like the fact you guys just chill around the house all day, and is getting bored.
angel.eyes Posted September 1, 2016 Posted September 1, 2016 I have asked her to hang out at her house but she says its better that we hang at my place. Have you ever actually asked her to go OUT on dates? Like planned dates out in public places, picked her up, and followed through on the planned public outing? Or is it all just hanging out at your place with the offer to also hang out at her place?
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