aiimezz Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 i was seeing this girl everthing was great, she broke up with me on fri 15th said she just lost her feelings, then on 2days later messaged me and asked me to come by, said she wanted to get back together and we did then the next day i saw her after work and i felt like she needed to know i couldn't be picked up and dropped and that i didn't wanna be with her (which was a lie and i regret it so much) she was saying she can change and just wanted to be with me. but i just dropped her home, then the next day i went back around and she said she don't know what she wants anymore but i talked her into seeing where it could go and she agreed then 2days later i saw her and she was off so i said to her there's no point if you ain't gonna try. she just gave me a look. i got a new job and she said she still wants to remain friends and she cares about me and wants to know how im getting on. so i agreed but she said she ain't getting back with me, she still looks at all of my snaps on snapchat. she awnsered my call today and seemed happy to hear my voice but it was like a 3minute covosation and i ended the convosation. is there anything i can do to increase my chances of trying to get her back? or am i in that hopeless situation? she has said that she has wondered what if or how could we get things back. id do anything to be with her again, i even asked if we could still have sex but she said wouldn't that be awkward as i still have feelings for her. its been just over a month now? like I've been told to just not put nothing up on snapchat and dont call or text just do a dissappearing act to make her think about me, does she even still think about me? what can i do? i think about her 24/7 there's nothing i want more in the world
grokcahsevol Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 i even asked if we could still have sex So what do you really want from this? It seems like you may be too concerned about the whole sexual experience. How long were you guys seeing each other for, and what is the age going on here?
sooshi Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Desperation is utterly unattractive. Let her go. Focus on building some self-respect and self-compassion for yourself. Take care. 1
Author aiimezz Posted August 31, 2016 Author Posted August 31, 2016 no i just wanted her to try and feel close to me again, thats why i asked her. we are both 23 and we saw eachother for 10 months
books Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 If there is anything I've learned from my past relationship is that playing games gets you no where! If you are un-happy with how you perceive her to feel, just communicate it properly and take it from there... Communication is soooo important. Hopefully you can learn this lesson a decade earlier in your life than I did in mine and benefit from it right now. 1
sooshi Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 no i just wanted her to try and feel close to me again, thats why i asked her. we are both 23 and we saw eachother for 10 months I'm sorry, sweetie, but she doesn't want to try. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's what you need to hear. Take care.
marky00 Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 (edited) i felt like she needed to know i couldn't be picked up and dropped and that i didn't wanna be with her (which was a lie and i regret it so much) she was saying she can change and just wanted to be with me. but i just dropped her home, then the next day i went back around and she said she don't know what she wants anymore Yeh it sux how in that situation, whatever you say works against you. I'd say that she may have used your comment as an excuse to maybe make it look like she was disappointed and agreed with your point. Also, its possible your lie was an unexpected reaction so her ego being dented may have caused her to say that stuff about "changing and wanting to be with you". So yeah, don't worry to much about what u said. The fact the next day she had once gain changed her mind does suggest she either used your comment as an excuse or it was a knee-jerk reaction to her ego taking a little hit when u made out that u kind of agreed to the breakup. Edited August 31, 2016 by marky00 1
Author aiimezz Posted August 31, 2016 Author Posted August 31, 2016 is there any think you can suggest i do?
marky00 Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Don't think so. I been trying for 3 years and to no avail. And when I say trying, I really mean trying not to try. There really is nothing you can do. But, if u still want to have one last crack at it. The usual protocol is sit it out for like 30 days and then maybe you could send a letter. But the letter needs to be something along the lines of respecting her wishes but maybe stating your take on things in a calm tone. These letters generally don't work in cases of lost feelings (which seems to be the case here) but at least then you'll know you have tried everything. 30 days has 2 advantages. 1) she would have had time to settle down so will be more receptive to the contact 2) in 30 days u may have calmed down and by then u may not want to contact her at all.
aloneinaz Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 is there any think you can suggest i do? Yup, have some pride and self respect and don't contact her again while staying NC. There's WAY to much drama in that toxic, immature R/S you had going on. Red flags were screaming all over the place. Be glad it's over. LEARN from you immature mistakes that you made so you don't repeat them again. In the meantime, enjoy being young. Go out and have some fun. Date others. You're only young once. 1
Author aiimezz Posted September 1, 2016 Author Posted September 1, 2016 she said she wanted to on that sunday and monday then she wasnt to sure and couple weeks later she said shes thought about how it could go back or wondered what if and did say maybe she rushed things when she broke up with me but thats how she felt at the time
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