misty1114 Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Guys I was wondering what you think of this situation. Say if there's a girl you've just started seeing for about 4 weeks and have amazing chemistry with. Turn out, she has very protective parents who wants her to date within her own culture. How would you handle this situation? I'm the girl in this scenario and I want to know how other people would react to this. I really do like this guy even though my parents might not approve of him. I want to know if he's worth going against my parents' wishes for. So far, we live about 1.5 hours apart and he has driven to see me for our first 3 dates. Also, recently my parents arranged for me to meet a guy from the same culture. I made an effort to be honest with the guy I'm seeing about the whole situation and he seems like he wants to keep seeing me and if we end up in a relationship then he'll work on convincing my parents. I don't know what his level of investment is and how much he's into me yet but I'm in a tight spot trying to decide whether to choose him or my parents' choice.
Larryville Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Never put a guy above your family. Relationships are sketchy enough, dudes will eventually ditch, your family is forever. 1
SwordofFlame Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 I would date whoever I want to date. Really don't care about my parent's approval. And my parents are traditional.
Gaeta Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 How old are you? Do you live with your parents? You only had 3 dates with this man you don't know him enough to consider him worthy of fighting your parents for him. In a few weeks you may change your mind about him.
Author misty1114 Posted August 31, 2016 Author Posted August 31, 2016 I'm 25 and still living with my parents in the mean time while I'm in school. It's still too early for me to decide on what to do. I appreciate all the inputs I can get
Gaeta Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 I'm 25 and still living with my parents in the mean time while I'm in school. It's still too early for me to decide on what to do. I appreciate all the inputs I can get It's more delicate to go against your parents while living under their roof. How long before you graduate? At 25 you should start thinking living on your own and directing your life the way YOU want to. If you date someone out of your culture your parents will get over it. It's always a big drama at first then they capitulate and calm down. Do you live in a western country? If you do, your parents should know it was just a matter of time before their children wonder outside their culture. It's hard for second generation like you but then the 3rd generation is usually completely freed from having to observe their home country culture. 2
JoeSmith357-1 Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 The parents are racist, you dont want to get involved in that
disneyfan90 Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 I understand this situation entirely, because my parents are the same way. In fact, I've gone through very similar scenarios as the one you just described. You're still only getting to know this guy that you're dating, and it's pretty early. So at the same time, why don't you try talking to the guy that your parents want to set you up with and see where it goes? Ultimately, follow your gut and make the decision about who you want to be exclusive with. If that ends up being the guy you're currently dating, talk to your parents about him. In the end, it is your life and the decision should be entirely yours.
preraph Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 This is YOUR life to live as you wish. Your parents have their OWN live to live as they wish. They do not get to have their lives and your life too. You only have this one time here on earth in the skin you're in, and you should do whatever you want to do with it. If they don't love you enough to understand you have your own mind and heart, then I certainly wouldn't care whether they liked it or not. Don't let them live your life. It's your only one.
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