Caslina Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Hi Milu, Its nice to hear a guy wanting thinking this. My advice is to start by asking her. When you make out with her tell her you want to make her feel good and ask her sensitive parts. It's kind of sexy flirt and it forces u both think or private parts and sex Another way is to gradually move to breast territory. When u make our make it as if you brushed her breast. Put your. Hand around her neck then on her chest. And also side breast stroking. Make it innocent and see her wanting more then u grab her breast while u kiss her. If she is not ready she will just push your hand down and keep kissing you. After this phase you can invite her to your place for Netflix after dinner that she has some drinks Also have drink at your place. Not too much but enough to inhibit her. And sex will happen
smackie9 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Ya it's so romantic to hear "so when are we going to have sex?" *sarcasm* Dude it will happen. This girl is different, she's not going to dump you for not "making a move fast enough". When things get hot and heavy just progress the moves, give her oral. ***remember to wear a condom. 1
PogoStick Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 I suggest having a conversation about sex when you are nowhere near having an intimate moment. Just an honest open conversation. IMO it's part of the general relationship talk : what kind of relationship are you looking for? What does sex mean to you in a relationship? You could say something like you're not very experienced but you've learned sex is important to you in a relationship and you want to better understand how she feels about it.
kgal785 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Hi Milu, Relationships are very complex and each one is unique. They should be nurtured and allowed to progress at a rate that both parties are comfortable with and is natural. What makes you think it is necessary to discuss this topic at this point in the relationship? Has your girlfriend indicated that she would be interested in taking things further? Do you think her inexperience could be related to saving herself for marriage? If you feel the relationship has potential to go long term, maybe letting the topic come up naturally will take the stress off of figuring out the best way to bring it yourself?
Author Milu Posted September 20, 2016 Author Posted September 20, 2016 Why is my girlfriend so cold out of a sudden? Is it just my paranoia? I've been with my girlfriend and some friends out this weekend and while it was comfy and sweet, yesterday she's been pretty cold, as if she was tired of people suddenly. In talk she acted normal but normally she would grab my hand, or hug me, or even just give me a little kiss. Yesterday, none of that happened. What happened is, she asked me to go out and have a coffee (because I had an off day and she had work and we couldn't do anything else) then another mutual friend (and her best friend) joined us, then we went to the gym, then home. Thing is, throughout it all, the whole time we were together, she never did anything that she would normally do. She didn't grab my hand, didn't kiss me, didn't hug me, didn't even ask me how I got home (I live a bit away and she usually asks me to text her once I get home) I feel pretty bad right now, I felt like I went to sleep with this burden, and I woke up pretty depressed. Later today we're going to the gym and after, to the cinema with some friends. Is it alright for me to approach her about this issue? Or to mention it at all, that she's been so cold and uninterested? Some people told me it's normal, but I don't know why is it supposed to be normal. Why would she act so cold towards me, and show no interest in me?
gorf Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 I wouldn't read into it too far at this point. Its one or two days. Maybe she saw a girl on Instagram that looked better than her with more likes and she is depressed down and self conscious and doesn't want to tell you cause its kinda lame and she knows it. Maybe its her time of the month and she is emotional that way. My gf has times like that and says it has to do with her period and not wanting to be touched sometimes. There could be a lot of things I know you are feeling hurt and confused, but I suggest you take a step back, a deep breath, and instead of analyzing and over analyzing and re-analyzing everything of the last day or so... instead, let it go and look for patterns that happen over a period of maybe several days. Then talk to her if it continues. 2
joyful Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 please leave it alone. this kind of wondering and picking at partners for any little change in mood or behavior is the beginning of a slippery slope down. it is extremely annoying and makes people self-conscious and defensive -- and makes you look obsessive. just leave it alone. be more touchy-feely with your GF, if that's what you need, the next time you see her.
Author Milu Posted September 20, 2016 Author Posted September 20, 2016 please leave it alone. this kind of wondering and picking at partners for any little change in mood or behavior is the beginning of a slippery slope down. it is extremely annoying and makes people self-conscious and defensive -- and makes you look obsessive. just leave it alone. be more touchy-feely with your GF, if that's what you need, the next time you see her. Well, after I posted this thread (as I told you, we were supposed to go to the cinema with friends today), she found out that a certain person is coming and she FLAT OUT REFUSED to come with us anymore. She simply ****ing refused, just like that, told me she doesn't want to come if that person is coming (they argued in the past). She insisted that it's OK if I go without her, it's no issue. This, combined with her cold attitude lately, I'm feeling like she's looking for excuses to stay away from me and our group of friends, and as it m trying to pry into it, I'm getting concerned that she's considering.... ummm, other option when it comes to romance, or she just isn't into me. I'm feeling more and more that she's staying with me because I'm, at the end of the day, a caring guy, I'm attentive, I listen to her, I like her and treat her right with love and dignity. Even if she doesn't love me as I love her, she's just hanging around, doing the bare minimum to keep the relationship afloat while putting no effort or emotion into it. It's killing me, obviously.
joyful Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 how long have you been with your girlfriend?
Author Milu Posted September 20, 2016 Author Posted September 20, 2016 how long have you been with your girlfriend? About 2 months or so
joyful Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 you and your GF are still learning each other: moods, preferences, responses to outside stresses, etc. if you feel like your girlfriend is pulling away, give yourself an extra bit of care, especially since it makes you feel down. spend time with friends, listen to music, work out, etc. do not start to question her, withdraw, act miserable. why would she stay if you do those things? insecurity kills relationships, and your relationship is too new to survive that.
GorillaTheater Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 Like Gorf said, you don't have enough data to work with. Being "cold" one day doesn't a pattern make. Maybe she had a bad day. Maybe she was bummed out about the Chiefs losing on Sunday. Who the hell knows? Don't get all alarmed over her being in a bad mood ONE day.
SoThatHappened Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 99.999996457% of the time, when a girl is suddenly distant or cold: - There's someone else in the picture - She wants there to be someone else in the picture Sorry man.
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