UltimaWeapon Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 (edited) Hello, I will make it as simple as possible: Got a girls number a few months ago at a bar- We hit it off over text and managed to talk a good amount- she even texted me after a few days after meeting me and really showed signs she was interested. I was seeing someone that I had a few dates with so I wanted to see where things would go ( we weren't exclusive or bf/gf but I thought maybe it would get to that stage) I was really struggling with what to do because I did not want to manage seeing two girls at the same time and all the drama and headaches that would come with that. So at that moment I decided to not ask the other one out- even though lookin back now; I realized I made a mistake. After 2 months with the girl I was seeing.. the situation never really developed and I ended things with her because she was not willing to get in a relationship and was still not over her most recent breakup. At this point I realized I messed things up with the other girl because I didn't act on it when I had the chance and we stopped talking and a few weeks have passed since meeting her. ( I never asked her out after we met we just texted back and forth getting to know each other) In May I saw her downtown as I passed by her and I was blown away by how beautiful she was- I messaged her after and we talked for a bit but I was leaving on vacation so I did not have a chance to ask her out than. When I came back she went on vacation so it was just really bad timing. I had her on snap chat this entire time and through that have we been able to see what we each of us was up too. I have her number but I don't know if she still has mine saved under my name- or if it's even in her phone- this way I avoid the whole " who is this talk" If I message her over text. We both have each other on snap chat and she will know who it's from. I feel that is the smartest way to go about this. The thing is we haven't talked since May so...my question is: Would it be okay if I messaged her out of the blue over snap chat and just straight up asked her to go for drinks with me? I don't think making small talk would make any sort of difference in this case because I am trying to get to the point right away with just asking her straight up. I don't want to waste anymore time essentially. Something along the lines of- Hey ( add in some inside joke we shared before) long time no talk- I would like to take you out for drinks one of these days when you are free. it's been long overdue. Not sure what else I could add in. Would that message be something good to say? Is this situation salvageable? Any opinions? Edited August 31, 2016 by UltimaWeapon
Toodaloo Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Hello, so...my question is: Would it be okay if I messaged her out of the blue over snap chat and just straight up asked her to go for drinks with me? Personally I would suggest a phone call. The conversation should go along the lines of I really messed up by not asking you out sooner so I am rectifying that, do you want to go out on X day to Y place at Z o clock. If she asks why just say you get the jitters around her and didn't have the balls. Don't go into the whole "just started seeing another girl" thing. This one needs to know she is first choice and your only choice.
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