mujeep Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 I know no contact is best, but when she called me on this holiday, it was hard not to answer. Today was an extremely fun day for me. Went jet-skiing on a lake, fireworks show, and parties, all with about six of my good buddies. She called me throughout the day, asking me what I was doing. I told her I was out having fun and she was really sad about that. It turns out the guy she is seeing didn't want anything to do with her on this 4th of July and she ended up staying home the ENTIRE day and night. I invited her to come out with me and spend some time with some of our mutual friends she hadn't seen since the breakup, but she refused and said she would feel too "weird". I think she's seeing that the grass isn't greener on the other side. She thought this new guys was going to pay attention to her to the extent that I did, but now she's finding out the hard way. Why would she call me like five or six times today, complain about missing out on everything, but not want to go out with me and friends to have a good time? It's like she only calls me when she's feeling down or bord, or when this new guy isn't giving her enough attention. I DO NOT want to be the shoulder to cry on, yet I still, for some reason, care about what she says. In the end I told her she needs to reevaluate her situation with this guy and that was the best advice I could give her.
Cwazydude Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 Even though you don't want to be the shoulder to cry on, It seems that you already are.
blue16 Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Originally posted by Cwazydude Even though you don't want to be the shoulder to cry on, It seems that you already are. yup, cut it out. If she is only calling you when she is bored or when she has no one else to talk to, you shouldn't be wasting your time. In a sense you're just taking whatever scraps she is willing to give you, which is not the way to go. She's just using you and you gotta stand up for yourself a little more. Next time she calls you (and she's just bored looking for attention) make the conversation really short and then do something else, or just ignore her call altogether. I recommend just ignoring her call altogether, but I don't believe you will do that when the time comes...so I think you should compromise and start off by not giving her the attention she so desperately craves. That will be a good start.
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