KittyKat67 Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 I don't know where else to post, so here it is friends. I really need advice on this. 6 years ago, I was working in a nursing home. There was a really nice elderly man I helped and took good care of when he was my resident which was not often. One day, I came in and he had a huge gash on his head. So he had stiches and was sent home from the hospital. About a few days later, I was in an arguement with one of the nurses and was waiting by her cart to confront her about it I was really pissed. His son came up and asked what happened to his dad and the nurse didn't even look up at him and said I dont' know. I gave her a dirty look because she should have stopped what she was doing and talk with him and direct him to where he could find out. But she didn't and I gave her a dirty look. He thought I gave him the dirty look and gave me a death stare. I mean he was realy realy pissed. I could understand I guess if I did give him tha t look but it was directed to the nurse. Fast forward 3 months later I saw him and he turned around and gave me the same stare so I quit because I was scared. Its been 6 years and its still is bothering me. I should have went up to him and told him what happened but honestly, at that time in my life was not a good time and I wasn't confident. Sometiimes I feel scared that he will come seek revenge or something because after all it was his father and I would be hella pissed maybe too if it was me. But he never knew that this look was not at him. I google his father's name and found one name that I think is his son and found that name on facebook. Should I contact him and tell him what happened or should I just leave it alone. I don't even know if that is him, and he may wonder how the hell I found out his name too, I don't know my friend said I should tell him and email him but I think I should just leave it....what do you think? Please give me your advice.
JewelD Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 I think there's a deeper issue here than the death stare incident. Why are you still thinking about it 6 years later? I'm assuming you never heard from him after that and he never actually threatened or harmed you? Sounds like you're very paranoid. Unless there's some detail you're not mentioning, like you know why the man had a gash in his head and you or someone you know was involved, I don't see why you feel so guilty. Leave it, it's been 6 years. and maybe consider talking to a professional. It's very odd to be this upset about a simple misunderstanding that, as far as you've told us, didn't result in anything catastrophic for anyone involved.
Author KittyKat67 Posted August 31, 2016 Author Posted August 31, 2016 I had no involvement. I am very much into astrology and I know for sure he was a scorpio and they hold grudges forever and never forget. The way he looked at me was like wanted to kill me. I scared me, and so that is why.
TXGuy Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 I google his father's name and found one name that I think is his son and found that name on facebook. Should I contact him and tell him what happened or should I just leave it alone. I don't even know if that is him, and he may wonder how the hell I found out his name too, I don't know my friend said I should tell him and email him but I think I should just leave it....what do you think? Please give me your advice. I think you should leave it alone now and likely should have left it alone before. At that point, you were just some worker outside his dads nursing home. I'm not sure if you realize it, but by looking at this guy's Facebook profile, you will very likely to show up on his 'people you might know' Facebook feed (with your picture,name, and whatever else is public). Just leave it alone. You have not done anything to him to warrant him doing anything to you. I doubt he thinks of it at all. eta: i totally missed this was six years ago. Let it go.
Author KittyKat67 Posted August 31, 2016 Author Posted August 31, 2016 Hi, yes I was mindful to not click on his page, It just came up along with a few others that had the same name. It just bothers me because the way he looked at me, then 3 months later, he did and I am scared he followed me after work one day and knows where I live.....I guess because it was his dad, and people take family seriously and he was soo offended. I wouldn't have quit if I didn't feel his scary energy. do you think teling him will do more harm than good? Maybe I can tell him so he won't carry around anger towards me, after all it is the truth that I want to tell him
JewelD Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 I had no involvement. I am very much into astrology and I know for sure he was a scorpio and they hold grudges forever and never forget. The way he looked at me was like wanted to kill me. I scared me, and so that is why. People who hold grudges generally reserve the effort for serious betrayals. Giving him a dirty look may have ticked him off but if he wanted to kill you, he would have tried to do it by now. He has hopefully moved on with his life and doesn't even really remember you or the incident. Leave this people alone, you will just make yourself look crazy bringing up this petty incident from forever ago.
Author KittyKat67 Posted August 31, 2016 Author Posted August 31, 2016 Unless there's some detail you're not mentioning, like you know why the man had a gash in his head and you or someone you know was involved, I don't see why you feel so guilty. I guess I am just scared he may come after me. I don't know why. I had no involvment or do I know who was involved at all. That is for sure 100%. He was holding a grudge...obviously if he was still pissed 3 months later. So if someone is that pissed, it bothered me because it was a misunderstanding.
aileD Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 He forgot about you 10 seconds after the first dirty looks. He saw you again then forgot about you 10 seconds later again. Trust me. He hasn't thought about you in 6!years more than those two times Let it go. It's unhealthy for you to be obsessing over this. 1
Romantic Gentleman Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 If it makes you feel better, then message him. It'll relieve some weight off your shoulders, but it has been 6 years, so it shouldn't bother you so much.
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