Redhead14 Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 I'll write this one last time. The situation is that in the meet up i was a nice guy and she was not a receptive person. She was rude and distant towards me and kept reiterating that she liked evil men and that she didn't believe in love. She made this clear when she mentioned her favorite movie, song, book, and even desired career. She even wore a pentagram around her neck. And when she agreed to go on the date with me she told me through the messaging system that it was because she thought i was as crazy as she is. She rejected my good nature and then kept boasting on her blog after the meeting about how she's a psychopath and how evil is great. Note that she did this by re-blogging and not actually writing anything. So no, the problem is not that i seem like the creep. I think she does see me as an enemy. And no this is not just a ruse on her part to play around even more with me; her history going back to years, everything points out that what i've seen is the real thing. The fact that she's "psycho" is one of the first things she made clear to me, probably unbeknownst to herself. I needed this to happen to see with my own eyes how "troubled" she is. Now i messaged her again saying hi and she didn't respond. Which gives another cue, so i either make a last meet up where i can make things clear with her or i tell her through messaging that i accept her craziness but that she has to put in effort on her part. If that doesn't work then goodbye girl, good luck, and i move on. Never again will i step into this kind of idiocy. I know some of you are rightfully passive-aggressive (and beyond ^-^) with me, i understand i painted a sick picture of me here, but again, i really am not as demented and lost as you might think. Although the fact that i am even still here should cue you in that i am perhaps at least a "nice" demented idiot. I don't think you are a creep, just seriously confused. I am not sure really why you are here. If you are looking for some validation from "us" that you are using the correct approach to approach a sociopath, you're probably on the wrong site because if we could confirm that you are doing this "right", we would also be sociopaths. If you want to have insight as to how to "get" a sociopath, you'd need to talk to a sociopath since talking to yourself or us isn't providing the validation you want. Perhaps you'll find one at http://www.sociopaths.com. 1
Satu Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 Click. Bang. Whoosh... The sound of Satu ejecting from this thread. 3
Author nonrequired Posted August 27, 2016 Author Posted August 27, 2016 (edited) I don't think you are a creep, just seriously confused. I am not sure really why you are here. If you are looking for some validation from "us" that you are using the correct approach to approach a sociopath, you're probably on the wrong site because if we could confirm that you are doing this "right", we would also be sociopaths. If you want to have insight as to how to "get" a sociopath, you'd need to talk to a sociopath since talking to yourself or us isn't providing the validation you want. Perhaps you'll find one at http://www.sociopaths.com. This has become a sort of an obsession for me. It has become a problem. And it is fueled by both physiological and environmental reasons such as my life history, experiences, context, anxiety, ocd, etc. Much of what relates to this girl has become obtrusive thoughts, meaning thoughts that one doesn't want but still pop up, which again point to the physiological. In a sick way i have turned this into a fantasy in which i pretend i stretch my mental muscles in order to crack a wicked code. The weird thing is that this has helped me become a bit more analytical but i have to put a stop to this wicked idiocy that i have involved my self in because it is not healthy for me. By stop i mean i either help this girl become "compatible" or i move on from this garbage and go on to have something much closer to a "normal" life. Part of proving that she's not quite sane has been my own sick way of proving i'm not insane my self. Sorry if i'm too direct here but i am here to use your input as a springboard for ideas from which i can get insight that i didn't have before. And you guys have helped me get clarification. For example, user "gorf" told me yesterday that she might see me as an enemy and that helped give me insight and a new perspective that i think does indeed help. I have been here to get new perspectives and validate my "sanity" to my self, those are at least two fundamental reasons that i can acknowledge. I think a problem here is that you peeps actually might think i'm some type of clueless monster. Edited August 27, 2016 by nonrequired
Timshel Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 This has become a sort of an obsession for me. It has become a problem. And it is fueled by both physiological and environmental reasons such as my life history, experiences, context, anxiety, ocd, etc. Much of what relates to this girl has become obtrusive thoughts, meaning thoughts that one doesn't want but still pop up, which again point to the physiological. In a sick way i have turned this into a fantasy in which i pretend i stretch my mental muscles in order to crack a wicked code. The weird thing is that this has helped me become a bit more analytical but i have to put a stop to this wicked idiocy that i have involved my self in because it is not healthy for me. By stop i mean i either help this girl become "compatible" or i move on from this garbage and go on to have something much closer to a "normal" life. Sorry if i'm too direct here but i am here to use your input as a springboard for ideas from which i can get insight that i didn't have before. And you guys have helped me get clarification. For example, user "gorf" told me yesterday that she might see me as an enemy and that helped give me insight and a new perspective that i think does indeed help. I have been here to get new perspectives and validate my "sanity" to my self, those are at least two fundamental reasons that i can acknowledge. I think a problem here is that you peeps actually might think i'm some type of clueless monster. There is no person on the internet that can, with integrity, validate your sanity....any person whether trained or not could only present common sense and personal experience. Are you in therapy? If not, find a licensed mental health provider to address concerns regarding your mental health. It seems that you are in school...you could start with the student counselor/advisor. Leave the self diagnosed 'sociopath' alone. You should address your own issues, become fully trained in education and rather experienced before attempting to interact with others you believe are drowning in mental illness. So....'healer, heal thyself.' Otherwise, you're being a j*ck*ss. 1
CarrieT Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 I think a problem here is that you peeps actually might think i'm some type of clueless monster. Oh, no... We don't think you are clueless at all....
Sthrngem87 Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 You've used sociopath and psychopath which are too different things. Neither of you actually sound like sociopaths. And it seems like you don't know what a sociopath actually is. It's highly unlikely that a sociopath or psychopath would go around saying they love evil or would even consider their thoughts or actions evil in the first place. They're not caricatures from a bad 80s movie. You both sound emotionally unstable and need professional help. 2
PogoStick Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 Well i'll make this short now.. 8 Paragraphs later....Zzzzzz What is wrong with you?
Author nonrequired Posted August 27, 2016 Author Posted August 27, 2016 Heehee, you lot are hilarious.
Author nonrequired Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 (edited) Well i broke everything off. The evidence is conclusive. This chick is a real troubled person and i don't need this. It's over. Time for my next adventure. Time for healing. Time for real fun. To the peeps in here... Sorry and Thank You. Edited August 28, 2016 by nonrequired
Author nonrequired Posted August 30, 2016 Author Posted August 30, 2016 If you want more info, search up the previous thread i made. I've realized that during my encounters with what i shall describe as an emotionally detached and pretty sick human being, i have been delusional, obsessive, paranoid, neurotic, emotionally invested, and this is worrying. I broke things off with her and basically told her i thought we were wackos, but i naively gave out too much info about how i felt about her. I basically made myself look like a mop i think. Now she's reblogged on her blog something along the lines of "i would have really cared for you if you had given me the chance." And also another post where she reiterates that she likes to be alone and that i'd have to win her over. So basically this is my problem folks. My biggest problem is that i have quite an anxious, noisy, overdrive, ocd-ridden mind, and thus this chick has turned into a bit of an unwanted obsession. I have learned alot from this experience. Most importantly, i need to keep my emotions at check with people. I've basically been given a tour of my naive heart and mind. I have two choices now... I either move on and take what i have learned and give myself time to heal or... I play her game and try to handle this bit by bit. And if i play it, i'd have to go slowly and unattached. Wow my friends, i have much to learn. Oh my god. Atleast now i know for sure that i can't ever trust this chick. I'd basically have to look at this situation as playing games with someone i can never trust. Just having fun with someone. I'd see her as trash.
Author nonrequired Posted August 30, 2016 Author Posted August 30, 2016 These are direct quotes from her: "Emotions are unnecessary." "Sometimes i'm apathetic by choice, sometimes not." "I choke emotions that bother me." "I don't believe in love." I have thankfully learned a lot about myself, or at least i think i have, and i'd say i've finally unmasked this person as at east someone who is not trustworthy. You know why i'm still in this? Because i've never had a girlfriend and apparently she's never had a boyfriend either. She's someone with truly many issues, the only reason i'm still interested is because from all i've seen in person and online, she really is a damaged and isolated person looking for someone who "thinks like her" according to her. The problem now folks is that i can't be attached. In any case, at least i have learned. Wow man just wow. Do i make myself clear as to my doubts and questions here? Should i try this? I know it's very stupid for many reasons.
Author nonrequired Posted August 30, 2016 Author Posted August 30, 2016 So what is your question? My question is whether i should try "courting" with this person. I realize that i'd have to be unattached, i could never expect love or care from this person. I'd have to not be bothered by her apathy towards me. Heck, i'd have to see this as a game, i couldn't care. It's as if she's a hobby. That's how i'd have to look at this. or not? And because of who i am as a person (psychologically and physiologically" that won't be easy.) I'm trying to convince myself that i should try doing this because i'd have to be unattached anyways. I'm a desperate and confused idiot.
smackie9 Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 So you are saying you should have a disconnected relationship because of your mental illness......fail. This will only confuse and make you more miserable. Get professional help. There is drug therapy that will help you with this disconnect you are experiencing.
Author nonrequired Posted August 30, 2016 Author Posted August 30, 2016 (edited) So you are saying you should have a disconnected relationship because of your mental illness......fail. This will only confuse and make you more miserable. Get professional help. There is drug therapy that will help you with this disconnect you are experiencing. I have a feeling you are correct. Mostly because i'm not sure about how i could handle this. I wouldn't be able to care, and that is hard. I'd have to strip her down into something i feel no attached emotion to. sigh. Edited August 30, 2016 by nonrequired
smackie9 Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 You state of mind is going to lead to poor choices. Get help first, then you will be able to figure out how to handle situations after sometime with therapy.
smackie9 Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 Think about it....is it a good thing for two heroin addicts to be together because they are addicts? They won't benefit being together, in fact it will send them into a downward spiral eventually OD-ing. They will destroy themselves.
Gaeta Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 My biggest problem is that i have quite an anxious, noisy, overdrive, ocd-ridden mind, Solve your problem. at this level you probably need to be medicated. This thread itself is showing how disconnected you are from reality. Your reasoning makes absolutely no sense. Get help.
devilish innocent Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 I haven't read your other post, but it sounds like the only "relationship" you'd have with her would be something completely shallow and meaningless. Life is too short to waste time on that.
Boo1738 Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 You are not in any state of mind to be dating anyone, let alone someone as unstable as yourself. She will only feed into your neuroses, and dating any "normal" girl is out of the question for you right now. You are not healthy enough to have a healthy relationship. Leave her alone, and seek some counseling.
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