miss2017 Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 I have been going to a new gym since 3 months ago and felt really attracted to a fitness instructor there. I could tell he was feeling the same, through smiles and stares. We started following each other on Instagram and clicking like on each others photos. Then one day a girl at his fitness class approached me saying that he mentioned me to her and that me and her do have a lot in common and that she started following me on Instagram too. Then after a week she invited me to a coffee at the gym's coffee shop after his class. At the end of the class she said he's coming too. I thought well maybe he's shy and found this way to get things going between us. I was wrong. So basically he sat there 95% of the time looking at his phone and listening to the conversation between me and the girl. A lot of questions were asked about if I am single, how long, if I plan to stay living in this city, etc. The few times he talked he also asked me how long I have been single. I felt like I was on a job interview! Like on a first interview where they want to know the most key questions and see if you go to the next stage! I found this a bit unfair because they both created all this situation from scratch without putting the cards on the table and being honest. I felt uncomfortable and didn't like it at all. Also, he seemed really full of himself and cocky. So I kinda started to lose interest in him after this coffee and I felt he lost interest too coming to a point where he would pretend that he didn't see me at the gym, whilst before he would turn around and smile every time. So, that coffee with them was 2 weeks ago and today I went to the gym's coffee shop and was shocked with what I saw. They were basically sitting down there with a new girl doing the same to her than they did to me! The same situation, her friend talking to the girl and he sitting there looking at his phone... I was shocked to see this, and also noticed how her friend pretended not to see me. She is basically like his personal assistant. I am still shocked now, how people can be so twisted and manipulative like this! And treating dating like a job interview where they don't even are honest about what is happening. I didn't do or say anything and I don't think I'll ever talk to either of them again or go to his fitness class again. What an a**hole! Very narcisistic and cold! I am happy though that nothing went further between me and him, and I didn't lose more time with this kind of guy. Would appreciate some opinions and insight on this, please help me see this a bit more clearly! Many thanks!
preraph Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 So these people both work for the gym, huh? So maybe this is their way of socializing with the guests to make them feel included, or even a way (in their mind) to be friendly and social without putting the much sought-after instructors on the spot, because they do get hit on a lot.
katiegrl Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 She is his girlfriend, and they are looking for a third (a female) to join their party... indefinitely. For some reason you didn't cut the muster .... don't feel bad you probably dodged a bullet. 2
morrowrd Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 I am continually amazed at the games people play with other people's lives in the name of selfishness. You seem to be really wise, and on top of your dating situation/s. You "notice" stuff, and investigate. Man, I wish I had your ability when I was in the dating world. Moral of the story, you are in good shape. Be grateful for your ability and skills to "see through the bs mist."
leogirl876 Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Regardless of what they were doing, it's VERY weird behavior and you definitely got away from something sketchy!
Toodaloo Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Would appreciate some opinions and insight on this, please help me see this a bit more clearly! Many thanks! You had a lucky escape. Do not waste a single moment thinking about this. His "wingman" isn't so great and he is not doing a very good job of finding a partner. Oh just walk away from this one and fast. He has "wrong" on a big flashing neon sign on his head...
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