EssoJnr Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 About 8-9 months ago, I ended an unhealthy friends with benefits relationship with a guy who I will say is an 'interesting character'. When I say ended, I mean cut all ties. We blocked each other on every form of social media because his persistence and my lack of self respect and esteem would always cause me to give in. In these past 8-9 months I have however focused on building that confidence and am in a much happier position now . Last month, we saw each other again. I found out he had a girlfriend and I was happy for him. I was seeing somebody at the time and I shared that with him and he claimed he was happy for me too. When we were in this fwb relationship he always seemed to have an issue with any other guy I was involved with/seeing which I never understood why as we were only casual and not exclusive. When I saw him last month, despite him having a girlfriend and despite me actually meeting her (she seems like a nice girl), he told me he was still having lustful urges, thoughts, desires towards me, which I told him was very inappropriate. The end of that encounter did not go well because he got huffy and accused me of coming on to him (which I absolutely did not do), I guess just to try to cover his tracks. Fast forward a month later and his friend and I have actually started becoming a thing. I should say that I am very close with this friend and we haven't hooked up (only kissed) and have generally had a really good and close friendship for a while now. My ex-fwb has since found out about this and has been gossiping about it behind our backs (but we have found out), saying that he feels 'stabbed in the heart' and that he finds this new 'thing' with his friend 'weird' and had to be reminded by the person he was telling this to that he has a girlfriend and that we are over. Why is he saying these things? I'm going to the same event as he is this weekend and I'm kind of worried he may act up about it. Why is he this fussed though if he has a girlfriend? He denies having emotional attachment to me but I can't see what else it could be? Would appreciate opinions and advice for how to handle this event at the weekend
stillafool Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 C'mon, are you trying to say you wouldn't have any problem whatsoever if your ex FWB was now seeing a friend of yours? Okay. One reason he has a problem is now that you are with his friend you will be in his social circle where he and his gf hang out. Not good. Also, he probably wanted to or be open to have sex with you again if something happens between him and his girl. BTW, no man likes to share a vagina with another man whether it's a FWB or committed relationship. That's just how they are. If you are with his friend now why do you care what this guy thinks? Did you express these things to your bf? What did he say?
preraph Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 It's not nice to date ex's friends at all. It causes all kinds of problems, which it has just done. Causes problems between them, caused drama between all of you. All because out of a billion guys in the world, you could only get interested in his good friend. Go figure.
Romantic Gentleman Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Yes, guys do get jealous when they find out you're talking to one of their friends. It's being caught off guard, that startles us, but overtime we accept the fact that you're happy
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