christaylor Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 Hi all, I'd appreciate some help. Met a girl on a Tinder (she "super liked" me if that means anything). We chatted that day back and forth for 10 messages or so and I got her number. We texted a little more and that night and I suggested going out the next evening to an event. She said she liked the idea and I proposed a time and location first thing the next morning Then I heard nothing all day. I sent a follow up, and later at about 8pm (past when we would have met) she writes back saying she had to take her crazy room mate to hospital. I played it cool did mention meeting up again and she said she'd love a drink. But she didn't offer a time. Should I wait for her to reschedule as she was the one not to get back to me? Or shall I take the lead as we didn't really have a date set in the first place? Thank you
Redhead14 Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 Hi all, I'd appreciate some help. Met a girl on a Tinder (she "super liked" me if that means anything). We chatted that day back and forth for 10 messages or so and I got her number. We texted a little more and that night and I suggested going out the next evening to an event. She said she liked the idea and I proposed a time and location first thing the next morning Then I heard nothing all day. I sent a follow up, and later at about 8pm (past when we would have met) she writes back saying she had to take her crazy room mate to hospital. I played it cool did mention meeting up again and she said she'd love a drink. But she didn't offer a time. Should I wait for her to reschedule as she was the one not to get back to me? Or shall I take the lead as we didn't really have a date set in the first place? Thank you Take the lead . . . if she doesn't follow this time, assume she's the one who should be in the hospital . . . 1
Romantic Gentleman Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 Wait until the next day, and take the lead. She took a friend to the hospital, so we don't know how serious it is 1
Redhead14 Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 Wait until the next day, and take the lead. She took a friend to the hospital, so we don't know how serious it is Romantic Gentleman, you are so Romantic But, she's not serious. I've spent many a day with a sick friend and I still had room for a guy I really liked . . . visiting hours end at 8. "sure, I'd like to have a drink, let's meet at 8:30 at X place . . . I can be both a friend and a good date . . . 1
smudge21 Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 Interested people act interested, and a text takes seconds. The only reason people don't get in touch is because they chose not to, end of. If you want to reach out one more time, then do so, but be prepared to let this one go if she's flaky already.
angel.eyes Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 I'm all for taking the lead, but not here. She's wasting your time. I doubt she has any intention of meeting you in person. Your time and energy would be better spent trying to meet someone else. 1
Miss Peach Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 I am all for taking the lead but people like this just really bug me so I tend to just dump them. With texting being so common it only takes 30 seconds to let you know this in advance so you can plan your evening and/or reschedule.
randall Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 If someone has agreed to arrange a date for the next evening they should be ready to reply straight away. The fact she conveniently replied after your proposed time is a very bad sign. It takes less than a minute to text...she replied late so she wouldn't have to turn up.
Romantic Gentleman Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 (edited) Romantic Gentleman, you are so Romantic But, she's not serious. I've spent many a day with a sick friend and I still had room for a guy I really liked . . . visiting hours end at 8. "sure, I'd like to have a drink, let's meet at 8:30 at X place . . . I can be both a friend and a good date . . . I'm not saying that people can't, but it just sounded like in this case that her friend needed her at that time, or she was just blowing him off. Thank you though! I'm new here, so I'm just trying to spread love, confidence, help in any way and learn my way around the forum Edited August 30, 2016 by Romantic Gentleman
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