Is it okay to reach 2nd or 3rd base during the first time you see each other?

[DarkRebel92]

Well, apparently I can't call it a date because it was just the first time we met. I met him thru an online dating app. We met recently because I wanna see him before I leave from my very short vacation. We had a really great time as we talked for more than an hour and then the hours that followed were spent kissing and making out. We didn't expect to get too far but we did. I'm not sure if what we reached was 2nd or 3rd base but is it okay to have that during the first time you meet someone? Was I too easy to get or is it just because we both have to part ways the next day that's why it happened? I'm all new to this since he was my first kiss and I never ever dated someone or had a boyfriend before even if I'm already 22. Can someone please help me out with this? Thanks!

[anonymousbear00101100]

It all depends on your personal beliefs/preferences. It is more than okay to hookup or make out with someone the first time you meet them as long as both of you are willing. If you feel uncomfortable with what happened, I'd see it as a learning experience and too hold off next time. But again, it comes down to what YOU want, and that's something you have to sort through your feelings to figure out if you are okay with.

[basil67]

I had sex (lots and lots of mind blowing sex) with my now husband on the night of the day we met - so I don't see anything wrong with it.

 

My only concern for you is that this appears to be a holiday romance. Just take it for what it is - a lovely memory and first experience - and don't expect more to come of it.

[DarkRebel92]

I had sex (lots and lots of mind blowing sex) with my now husband on the night of the day we met - so I don't see anything wrong with it.

 

My only concern for you is that this appears to be a holiday romance. Just take it for what it is - a lovely memory and first experience - and don't expect more to come of it.

 

We still text after what happened. We just can't call ourselves a couple because we're far away from each other. He had bad experiences with long-distance relationships so he doesn't want to go for it. However, we still hope on seeing each other in the near future. Do you see any possibility of this in going from a holiday romance to a long-term relationship?

[gm_515]

Hello!

 

In my humble opinion, it was a date and it's TOTALLY OK because you're consenting adults and you both wanted to have a little fun as consenting adults.

 

Some say it's good to get pretty physical on a first date as a good test of super-important physical compatibility.

 

There's some risk that you'll quickly get attached for only physical reasons, though, and that could lead to a lousy (otherwise baseless) relationship that you'd be better off getting out of sooner rather than later.

 

Again, it's totally OK. Give yourself a little time to think about things, then maybe go on a 2nd (but much less physical) date with this guy to start figuring out how much non-physical (emotional, intellectual, spiritual, etc) compatibility you two have. If no 2nd date happens, don't sweat it. Congratulate yourself on having had a little fun and look forward to the next opportunity.

[gm_515]

... we're far away from each other. .... Do you see any possibility of this in going from a holiday romance to a long-term relationship?

 

Unless you live in a small town with zero other dating opportunities, I'd say you're too young to waste time and energy on the long distance thing. It's a drag. Date more and have fun.