anonymousbear00101100 Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 I'll keep this one somewhat short: After my girlfriend of 2+ years left me I was devastated for a few months but found a new girl who made me forget about her. We had a "thing" for about 2 months but we never officially dated because I didn't want a long distance relationship over the summer and neither did she (my ex and I had an LDR for a few months before we split). We talked a bit over the summer but eventually it faded away. It hurt a bit but upon coming back to school I met a new girl on my second night back. It's been a week since then and she's spent the night four times already. I feel great and I don't really think about the second girl anymore. This girl has all the things I look for in a girlfriend. But over the summer I promised myself I would not get tied down into anything because I always catch feelings fast and I don't want to go through a breakup for a long time. Should I make a move and ask her on a real date or just chalk this up as a syllabus week fling and go back to being on my own?
smackie9 Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 Have a discussion with her...tell her tho this has been fun, it's time to cool it so you can focus on your studies.
scooby-philly Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 A friend posted on FB today. It was a picture with a question on it. The question was....what 4 words would you give to your 17 year-old self. My response was.."Be your darn self". Don't overthink things - assuming you're in college b/c she can spend the night. A lot of guys would kill to be in your position don't forget. However, trust your gut. And own your feelings and your tendencies. There's nothing wrong with flings. Not every short-term thing terms into something long term. And my first two long term things should have been short term - but I had to learn. Just go with your feelings but don't let your mind dictate your actions on its own. Trust your gut. Things will work out the way they're supposed to as the saying goes. 1
zivo Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 If you had to ask this publically I would say that you like her a lot, so with that said I think you should give her a chance and date her. Break ups suck, yes but the time you spend with the person should be worth it no matter what really. If they arent worth it, then quickly end things and you wont be that tied down feelings wise... 1
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