Lexxi Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 New to OLD so I'm wondering... When meeting a stranger you've talked to for a short amount of time, and you both are there just for a hookup, where would you even go for that? I know a public place is always best to meet for the first time but if you have no intention of having a relationship and just want casual sex, it wouldn't be smart just to invite him over to your house, and same goes with you going to his. So wondering where you all go to hook up?
JewelD Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 I don't think it's wise to be doing that at all. Unless you're going to do it in the middle of an Applebee's, you're basically a sitting duck. You could be raped, assaulted, murdered. If you absolutely want to do this, at least try to get to know the person on a few public outings first. 2
NIGHT1985 Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 Just meet up somewhere first, like a bar or a coffee shop, and then go back to one of your places, if you feel the right vibe 3
BikerAccnt Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 Wait, are you asking where to go for a hookup? Hookup as in sex? I don't think you should do that in public really
Author Lexxi Posted August 29, 2016 Author Posted August 29, 2016 Wait, are you asking where to go for a hookup? Hookup as in sex? I don't think you should do that in public really Lol, I worded it wrong. Of course I plan on meeting the people in a public setting, but if there's chemistry and we want to hook up, then what? I wouldn't invite the person to my place, nor would I want to go to his.
NopeNah Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 Lol, I worded it wrong. Of course I plan on meeting the people in a public setting, but if there's chemistry and we want to hook up, then what? I wouldn't invite the person to my place, nor would I want to go to his. Get a hotel for the night.
jen1447 Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 Hotel, car, secluded public place, in that order. (And don't do the car at a place that's known for it unless you want a visit from the cops/security. Random full-ish large parking lot is best, vehicle w halfway tinted windows at least.) Being alone enough w someone to have sexual privacy isn't really a safe practice w randoms I agree, so pls do vet them well.
JoeSmith357-1 Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 Hotel, park, rest area, side of the road, alley, unisex bathroom at walmart... where there's a will, there's a way 1
preraph Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 Some police stations are encouraging using their parking lots for first meetups to get them on camera, basically. Then you go from there. But you'd have to ask yours if they're doing that or not. Many probably don't want to mess with it.
SammySammy Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 If I'm not comfortable enough with a person to go to their home or invite them to my home, then I'm probably not having sex with them. With that said, I'd probably spring for a hotel room in this situation. Too old to be having sex in cars. 1
QueenDafine Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 First you should know that this person is legit who they say they are. I'll admit, I've actually just met a guy off tinder and had him take me back to his place to hook up. It wasn't a really big deal, tinder rarely has any fake people, and I was actually fine with it. As a back up I had a group chat with my friends who kept tabs on me before and after I left his place. If I'd had a gut instinct not to go, I wouldn't of. I guess it comes down to ages too; of course a 20 year old has as much will to hurt you as a 30 year old, but in this case I feel like when you're young and you want to hook up, it's not hard to find a young guy that wants to do that too and he's probably just interested in getting into your pants rather than murdering you or some crap like that. Also, I couldn't bring a guy into my house, so the guys I've hooked up with either lived with their parents, on a campus or with their room mates so I sort of wasn't isolated, in a sense. I drove myself to and from their houses too, so I wasn't exactly "under threat" being in their car too. The older you get and the older the people you're hooking up with, the more safer you should become in my opinion. You can never be too careful of course, so like others suggested, meet him in a public place first, and if by then you aren't comfortable taking him back to your home or going to his, you shouldn't hook up with him! Plain and simple. Sex with a stranger can be thrilling.
dumbass2 Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 New to OLD so I'm wondering... When meeting a stranger you've talked to for a short amount of time, and you both are there just for a hookup, where would you even go for that? I know a public place is always best to meet for the first time but if you have no intention of having a relationship and just want casual sex, it wouldn't be smart just to invite him over to your house, and same goes with you going to his. So wondering where you all go to hook up? Find a decent hotel nearby with a nice bar (like a Hyatt or Westin) and plan to meet there for drinks.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 New to OLD so I'm wondering... When meeting a stranger you've talked to for a short amount of time, and you both are there just for a hookup, where would you even go for that? I know a public place is always best to meet for the first time but if you have no intention of having a relationship and just want casual sex, it wouldn't be smart just to invite him over to your house, and same goes with you going to his. So wondering where you all go to hook up? There is NO SAFE place for such a meeting! You are playing Russian Roulette and only hoping for the best. Crazy... 1
PogoStick Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 There is NO SAFE place for such a meeting! You are playing Russian Roulette and only hoping for the best. Crazy... When it's a 1 in 1000 chance of being dangerous it's not such a risk. A vast majority of men would rather bang you, than bang bang you.
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