nobodyIam Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 At the beginning of december my ex gf decided to leave me. She told me she isnt sure what she wants and that she cannot cope with relationship being so serious. We have been together for neraly 3 years. I said ok,and allthough it was hard I went NC. There have been sporadical contacts from her (about stupid things)for a few months and then it stopped. I finally started moving on. About a month and a half ago she randomly texts me telling me how much she misses me and how she will never love anybody like she loves me. She said it's very hard for her to contact me because she is scared. Then she asks me if we could meet up. I aggree and we set a date. A day before our meeting I ask her to confirm time and she then says she cant and gives me some excuse (which was pretty valid though). I contacted her few days later and we had a nice chat, I told her if she wants we can meet up some other time. She said she will let me know and that's it. She didnt contact me after. It didnt bother me up till now, idk what to think about it but it bothers me. I'm still in love with her sadly. Can somebody give me some insight?
aloneinaz Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 Hi there, Have you ever heard the expression "she played me like a Piano?" Well, sadly, that's what she's doing. She's simply using you to stroke her ego. It makes her ego feel good to know there's someone out there who covets her. You're playing right into hands. What to do? VANISH from her life. BLOCK her on your phone (or change your phone number) and block her on all social media. Why want someone who's already kicked you out of her life? Reconciliations hardly EVER work out. Dumped once, dumped again. Now, stay NC. If you're able, start dating others. As soon as you find the next girl that rocks your world, you'll forget all about this one who kicked you to the curb.
RoseHeart Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 It sounds like she either got dumped by someone else or liked someone and then found out she got rejected or played. Now she turned to you for comfort in the moment and to help make her feel better, cherished and possibly loved (cause she knows you obviously loved her in the past). It's a common tactic and happens when the person who dumped you is going through a tough time. They might jump back at you for a moment's sympathy and affection only to then realize what they are doing and to decide to not lead you on further.
Author nobodyIam Posted August 30, 2016 Author Posted August 30, 2016 Thank you a lot. I didnt look at her social media so I dont know whether she had somebody. She just said she was just telling her friend (I suppose male because in my language we have word friend for each gender,but male version is sometimes used for all) how great I am,so I suppose there is a guy,but it doesnt really bug me too much. Your answers actually really helped me to realize that it's pointless to think about what and why,her actions showed enough.
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