somegu Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 I recently broke up with my gf (3 weeks ago). I cared deeply about her and I would say I was devastated but now I'm mostly over it and I just wanted to share a few things that might be helpful. Talk to your friends that will empathize and not give their opinions. A lot of people will say hurtful things to you when you breakup with someone and not really listen or care about how you are feeling. The people who actually give a crap about you and your feelings are good to be around. All the cliche BS about focusing on yourself is really annoying, but after getting drunk and sleeping with some random people I quit smoking pot, quit smoking and cut back on drinking and that has made a huge difference in my mental health and made me feel a lot better. I was already exercising a lot which is what everyone seems to recommend for healing after a breakup. I also read a couple books. One on dating women and one about how to have a better marriage (even though I have never been married). Feeling like I am going to be a better man in relationships in the future gives me confidence that my next relationship will be better. Even though a breakup is never one persons fault I feel like taking full responsibility for my failures in the relationship will allow me to be my best self. Instead of wallowing in the past I'm focusing on the future. The ladies don't stand a chance! Another thing that helped me is just writing down everything I was feeling bad about before going to bed and then throwing that out and then writing down a list of everything I was grateful for and keeping that around for a couple days to read again. Basically just keep going it gets better time heals all wounds and all that BS. Don't spend too much time thinking about the breakup, I would recommend after the first few days just set aside 15 minutes a day to feel bad about it and spend the rest of your day doing fun and productive things. Pretty soon you will be living a new, more amazing life like I am. Plus don't forget to remember the bad stuff about your ex and to talk a little smack about them (although not too much if you are the kind of person that gets back with your ex's). Keep your head up! I believe in you!
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