kmri Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 I'm feeling terrible again. I know i've talked about this ex before, weirder things have happened and now i am broken hearted but it has nothing to do/somewhat to do with him. I've had the worst/weirdest week of my life. Last tuesday, I thought I saw him ducking in his car at the grocery store I go to. I wrote down the license plate number. Wednesday, I hung out with his ex because she wanted to apologize for trying to getting him to cheat on me (they dated 10 years ago). Thursday, I got a call early in the AM that one of my best friends had passed away in a terrible car accident. Friday I was supposed to see that best friend of mine in first time in a few weeks and go to a movie it was supposed to be our first real date in the 12 years we knew each other I know my ex knows because it was all over social media. On sunday, I drove by him and discovered it was him at grocery store (he lives 3 towns away from me). I still talk to his best friends girlfriend, she had asked what happened to my friend, i sent her the video that was recorded of the scene. I assume my ex saw it too. My exes best friends father (whom I know well enough) visited me at my work to see how i was doing. is he trying to come back i miss him more than ever now. Would you send your condolences to your ex?
JewelD Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 Personally, no, I wouldn't send my condolences to my ex for anything because I want nothing to do with him and don't care. But it all depends on how/why the relationship ended. If it was someone I cared about and we were on speaking terms and the person who died was very close (like best friend or sibling or parent), then yeah, I probably would say something. I think you miss him because you're in a delicate state and he was your source of support at one time. However, you need to find new people to emotionally support you. The relationship is over and him giving you his condolences isn't going to make you feel any better and it isn't going to rekindle the relationship.
Author kmri Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 Personally, no, I wouldn't send my condolences to my ex for anything because I want nothing to do with him and don't care. But it all depends on how/why the relationship ended. If it was someone I cared about and we were on speaking terms and the person who died was very close (like best friend or sibling or parent), then yeah, I probably would say something. I think you miss him because you're in a delicate state and he was your source of support at one time. However, you need to find new people to emotionally support you. The relationship is over and him giving you his condolences isn't going to make you feel any better and it isn't going to rekindle the relationship. I agree with everything you said, we did end on nasty terms, but we were first loves. He followed me to my grocery store two days before my, yes, best friend passed away which is what confused me. His best friends father came into my work to see how i was doing, the day after he saw what had happened to my best friend
JewelD Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 I agree with everything you said, we did end on nasty terms, but we were first loves. He followed me to my grocery store two days before my, yes, best friend passed away which is what confused me. His best friends father came into my work to see how i was doing, the day after he saw what had happened to my best friend Are you sure he followed you? Seems like you guys have mutual friends so it's possible he was there for other reasons. I'm also not really seeing the connection between his best friend's father coming in to see you and your ex. You guys have a friendship independent of that relationship so it doesn't necessarily mean anything. It's probably better that you don't talk to your ex right now anyway. The breakup happened the way it did for a reason and although you're in a delicate position right now, nothing has really changed between you and your ex.
Author kmri Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 Are you sure he followed you? Seems like you guys have mutual friends so it's possible he was there for other reasons. I'm also not really seeing the connection between his best friend's father coming in to see you and your ex. You guys have a friendship independent of that relationship so it doesn't necessarily mean anything. It's probably better that you don't talk to your ex right now anyway. The breakup happened the way it did for a reason and although you're in a delicate position right now, nothing has really changed between you and your ex. I am not sure he followed me, but I am sure it was him. He lives 3 towns away from me, he was by himself, and when I drove by him near his town, it was his license plate that I wrote down at the grocery store. We have no mutual friends that live near me. They are all practically his neighbor, but he was alone. I was good friends with his best friend for years, and his father used to come in with his son (my exes bff) for lunch.) His father literally came in "I heard about your friend I'm sorry" My ex works with his best friend, since we've broken up and they are always together. And thank you that is good advice but I do miss him now and I think he does too. I just don't think he knows how to deal with things. I'm just very confused and wish he would just grow a sack and talk to me
LD1990 Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 It sounds like you're really grasping at straws here, which is natural when you miss someone. But the only evidence you have that he wants to talk to you is that you saw him at a grocery store, and there are a million possible reasons for why he could've been there that don't involve you.
Author kmri Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 It sounds like you're really grasping at straws here, which is natural when you miss someone. But the only evidence you have that he wants to talk to you is that you saw him at a grocery store, and there are a million possible reasons for why he could've been there that don't involve you. he lives 3 towns away he literally lives near 2 grocery stores that are 2 minutes from him and not 25 minutes from him like mine is. the grocery store i live near is walking distance from my house
Author kmri Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 he lives 3 towns away he literally lives near 2 grocery stores that are 2 minutes from him and not 25 minutes from him like mine is. the grocery store i live near is walking distance from my house he didnt even get out of his car to go grocery shopping he simply drove away
JewelD Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 he didnt even get out of his car to go grocery shopping he simply drove away It's possible that he saw you watching him.
Author kmri Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 It's possible that he saw you watching him. its possible he followed me there considering he lives 25 minutes away and he parked a few lanes behind my car.
JewelD Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 its possible he followed me there considering he lives 25 minutes away and he parked a few lanes behind my car. Then call him and ask him. I mean if you're gonna go through the effort of writing down his plates and driving by his house, may as well ask. Seems a bit much since he knows you're grieving and still hasn't contacted you.
Author kmri Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 Then call him and ask him. I mean if you're gonna go through the effort of writing down his plates and driving by his house, may as well ask. Seems a bit much since he knows you're grieving and still hasn't contacted you. where did i say anywhere i drove by his house? did you read any of this post? sure, i said i wrote his license number down but it was mostly memory cause numbers are not hard to remember. you only need to memorize three numbers of a license plate, darling. as you remembered reading i said anywhere that "i drove by his house"....
JewelD Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 where did i say anywhere i drove by his house? did you read any of this post? sure, i said i wrote his license number down but it was mostly memory cause numbers are not hard to remember. you only need to memorize three numbers of a license plate, darling. as you remembered reading i said anywhere that "i drove by his house".... You said, "On Sunday, I drove by him". So you drove by him randomly in the street and you were able to see the plates and remember it was him? You made it sound like him driving 25min to a grocery store you go to is faaarrr out of his way so I assumed you wouldn't have seen him again unless you were near his town. Regardless, that's a lot of effort in this age of technology. Why follow someone to a store when you could simply text/call them if you truly wanted to talk to them? How would he have even known you were going to be at the store unless he was sitting outside your house waiting for you to pull out of the driveway? But to answer your original question, I doubt he's trying to come back if he's not reaching out to you.
Author kmri Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 You said, "On Sunday, I drove by him". So you drove by him randomly in the street and you were able to see the plates and remember it was him? You made it sound like him driving 25min to a grocery store you go to is faaarrr out of his way so I assumed you wouldn't have seen him again unless you were near his town. Regardless, that's a lot of effort in this age of technology. Why follow someone to a store when you could simply text/call them if you truly wanted to talk to them? How would he have even known you were going to be at the store unless he was sitting outside your house waiting for you to pull out of the driveway? But to answer your original question, I doubt he's trying to come back if he's not reaching out to you. I guess I should have explained better. He lives only a town away from my parents whom I was driving home from visiting, I saw him on a main road after I had stopped at a gas station to get cigs. His car is not one you see everywhere, and I saw him from a distance at a stop light. We drove by each other and viola, it was him, and his license plate number in my parents town. I guess I just know him better than people I can talk to on the internet. He has admitted many times to driving by my house before (in the past after a fight) and I just know how much of a chicken he is. He has blocked me on everything, but again, he is a big chicken. The best way i can describe him is a grade school boy on valentines day nervous to hand out his valentines day cards. I guess I am just sad and trying to find someone to talk to about all this ish.
Author kmri Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 I guess I should have explained better. He lives only a town away from my parents whom I was driving home from visiting, I saw him on a main road after I had stopped at a gas station to get cigs. His car is not one you see everywhere, and I saw him from a distance at a stop light. We drove by each other and viola, it was him, and his license plate number in my parents town. I guess I just know him better than people I can talk to on the internet. He has admitted many times to driving by my house before (in the past after a fight) and I just know how much of a chicken he is. He has blocked me on everything, but again, he is a big chicken. The best way i can describe him is a grade school boy on valentines day nervous to hand out his valentines day cards. I guess I am just sad and trying to find someone to talk to about all this ish. Like I am not questioning whether or not he is trying to see me or something idk what yet i am literally venting about all of this happening at once. Seeing him thinking it is him. Hanging out with his ex the next day (ex from when they were like 16). BFF dying the next day. Him seeing what exactly happened to my BFF on Sunday and me discovering it was def him at grocery store. Then his BFF father coming in to see how I am doing at my work on monday. I used to be good friends with his BFF too, he introduced us, and he knew my BFF as well. it is all literally me venting on going through too much. Plus hoping and thinking maybe he is trying to come back. I am not trying to disregard what you said, but idk i just dont know
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