kinug655 Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 I've gone on two dates with a man from the dating app Happn, and so far we've had a great time together. Last time we did some heavy making out, and he wanted me to go home with him. I said I'm not quite ready for that. (I'm looking to be in a LTR with someone, and I think that's what he wants, too, though we haven't discussed it clearly) Now he wants to go away next weekend on a three day/two night trip. He said we don't have to have sex if I'm not ready and he just wants to spend more time with me, but he may end up really frustrated at the end of the night. Has anyone been in a similar situation where you spend the night with someone you're dating but don't end up having sex?
Gaeta Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 Tell him you are very flattered he wishes to spend a weekend with you but you will decline this time and maybe in a couple of months you can plan something away. He knows too well there is no way you won't have sex during a weekend away. You'll go out, have a drink, head to the same hotel = sex. This man is not serious about you. If he were he would never put you under pressure like this. He would never dare ask you something like this after 2 dates in fear to make a bad impression and losing the opportunity to know you better. If he wants to get to know you then he'll court you and date you the proper way 1 date at a time. He is NOT going to know you faster by taking you away with him. I am surprise you even consider this. He is a complete stranger to you!! I don't care how much of a sweet talker he is, he is a stranger and he could turn nasty on you at the moment you leave town. 2
Romantic Gentleman Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 Get to know him more, and if he truly means what he says, he'll respect you if you really don't want to have sex. I can say from experience when I really really liked a girl, I wanted nothing but to respect her wishes, cause I didn't want to mess up what we were building. 2
Redhead14 Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 I've gone on two dates with a man from the dating app Happn, and so far we've had a great time together. Last time we did some heavy making out, and he wanted me to go home with him. I said I'm not quite ready for that. (I'm looking to be in a LTR with someone, and I think that's what he wants, too, though we haven't discussed it clearly) Now he wants to go away next weekend on a three day/two night trip. He said we don't have to have sex if I'm not ready and he just wants to spend more time with me, but he may end up really frustrated at the end of the night. Has anyone been in a similar situation where you spend the night with someone you're dating but don't end up having sex? Yeah, back when I was in school, they were called pajama parties . . . don't go away with a man for a weekend when you've only had a couple of dates. You don't know him yet. He says ok with no sex, but you don't know if he will force himself on you or not. It's just a matter of safety/common sense. and I think that's what he wants, too -- Until you actually know/hear it from him that that's what he wants, you wait until it gets clear. You are not a mind-reader. And, even if he says he's looking for long-term, you sit back and observe whether he dates you that way. And, that would not include a weekend away after 2 dates . . .
PrettyEmily77 Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 He said we don't have to have sex if I'm not ready and he just wants to spend more time with me, but he may end up really frustrated at the end of the night. That rings huge alarms bells. Not only does he expect it, he is shamelessly grooming you for it. That would make me run for the hills. Unless you are okay risking your personal safety for 3 days with a guy you've only seen twice, you want to have sex with him and are prepared to never see him again after that, don't go. Or even see him again. 1
dcamnc Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 I'm a guy, trust me, he wants sex during that trip. Over and out.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 Has anyone been in a similar situation where you spend the night with someone you're dating but don't end up having sex? This is for sex. He may insist that no sex take place, but he will likely "encourage" the two of you to sleep in the same bed and we all know what happens... Too soon for a weekend trip unless you two have alread had sex. Also, you don't know this guy yet. Not after two dates. Think and be safe. 1
basil67 Posted August 27, 2016 Posted August 27, 2016 If you're happy to have a fun weekend away and sex without commitment, then go for it. But if you need to wait longer to see where the relationship is going, DO NOT GO. 1
BaileyB Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 Politely refuse - way too early. You need to know what his goals are for the relationship, have the exclusivity talk, and then consider this... He is a stranger to you at this point. Way too early...
mizunomead Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 as i guy i wouldnt be down with that after a few dates. firat weekend trip my gf and i made was after 2 months of dating.
Lois_Griffin Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 Now he wants to go away next weekend on a three day/two night trip. He said we don't have to have sex if I'm not ready and he just wants to spend more time with me, but he may end up really frustrated at the end of the night. LOL. And if you believe THAT load of horse crap, I have some beachfront property in Arizona I'd like to sell you.
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