low self esteem when it comes to relationships

[SethDamien]

I met this amazing girl last month. she's very cheeky, passionate, energetic,

and extroverted. (i guess any guy would say their girl is very unique)

 

in contrast, I'm a self confessed introvert, i'm a little timid, serious type,

just came out of my depression. Basically, we have very opposite

personalities.

 

I feel like i'm boring her when were together. Whenever she cracks jokes or

endearing insults, i just respond with a smile, a laugh, or with a lame

comeback because i'm not as witty as her. I cant express joy as much as

i had in the past even though i'm genuinely happy with her and the way she is.

 

I know being social doesn't play a part if two people are in love, but i'm

starting to feel like i'm "inadequate" for her, or idk, perhaps its just with me.

 

I fear i'll eventually bore her and she'll leave me... we did talk about this

and she said my personality wasn't an issue for her. But im still worrying.

 

Any ideas how to overcome this lack of confidence? or what's really holding

me back?

 

I feel like im worrying for nothing and that my lack of confidence

will turn her off rather than my personality

[Redhead14]

I met this amazing girl last month. she's very cheeky, passionate, energetic,

and extroverted. (i guess any guy would say their girl is very unique)

 

in contrast, I'm a self confessed introvert, i'm a little timid, serious type,

just came out of my depression. Basically, we have very opposite

personalities.

 

I feel like i'm boring her when were together. Whenever she cracks jokes or

endearing insults, i just respond with a smile, a laugh, or with a lame

comeback because i'm not as witty as her. I cant express joy as much as

i had in the past even though i'm genuinely happy with her and the way she is.

 

I know being social doesn't play a part if two people are in love, but i'm

starting to feel like i'm "inadequate" for her, or idk, perhaps its just with me.

 

I fear i'll eventually bore her and she'll leave me... we did talk about this

and she said my personality wasn't an issue for her. But im still worrying.

 

Any ideas how to overcome this lack of confidence? or what's really holding

me back?

 

I feel like im worrying for nothing and that my lack of confidence

will turn her off rather than my personality

 

 

Any ideas how to overcome this lack of confidence? -- Sure, observe the fact that she is interested in you and, therefore, that should boost you at least a little anyway. If you're not feeling great around her, there's something else going on.

 

or what's really holding me back? -- If you're not feeling great around her, there's something else going on.

 

It appears that she, herself, isn't doing anything to harm your esteem, so what you are feeling is being carried over from previous experiences. Learn to live in the moment and focus on what's in front of you.