Author Forever broken Posted October 20, 2016 Author Posted October 20, 2016 His wife may have followed the general guidelines you see on here and on other sites. She may have requested him to go completely 'no contact' with you and that ANY contact would be a deal breaker for her and she would rake him over the coals in a divorce. Very true. I have come to realize that a no contact rule is a must in order for the betrayed spouse to heal.
Author Forever broken Posted October 20, 2016 Author Posted October 20, 2016 Forever broken give the MM a time limit in your head and then push the thoughts out. Plus I would make a list of all the things that you didn't like about him and how he wasn't right for you and look at it every single day. Are you in any kind of therapy? That helps a lot too! You will get over him it does take a while though Thank you ladydesigner for your advice . Thanks to you guys I got the therapy that I needed and now I can be able to help others. There's a part of me that still love and cares for him but my heart doesn't control my head anymore.
whatever29 Posted October 20, 2016 Posted October 20, 2016 (edited) I admit I played a role in it and I accepted that. I was attacked mentally, physically, and emotionally by the wife. I took everything without a word. I also apologized to her. All I wanted was an apology from him, for telling me lies, and hurting me also. I needed closure. Only you can give yourself closure. He's never going to admit that he's just a lying, cheating, dirt bag. You do not love that person. You loved the mirage he presented himself as. Realize that it was only a mirage to get what he wanted. You are better off without him. There are so many better men out there. Take this as an opportunity to cross this type of cowardly man off your list. Been there - done that - never again. Don't be too hard on yourself. Obviously, he has had other affairs and has no respect for his W. Be thankful that you aren't stuck with him. Indifference comes with time and you will get there. Edited October 20, 2016 by whatever29 1
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