should i just keep trying?

[down hearted]

So after been single for who knows how long i finally managed to get out of my comfort zone and go out there with friends and actually enjoy a decent summer. This summer has been such a wonderful summer for me and it truly opened the doors to new friendships and activities. Well i met someone, he seems nice we hung out a few times and he really likes me. He is very polite very respectful, however when it comes to conversations they seem more of somewhat close ended and i end up been the one trying to keep them open. for instance while talking eventually the conversation dies out and its just silence and it becomes a bit awkward for me, not for him it seems. I noticed he really enjoys my company and wants to see me often but since I'm always so busy i can't (which he is very understanding I'm amazed) and to be honest i feel like i run out of things to talk about which makes me less willing to actually get together.

 

Im sort of rusty in the whole dating/flirting dept I'm not sure if i should just go my way. the times i have met up with him i just wasn't feeling the chemistry at all, maybe if he were more talkative idk but i just wasn't feeling it and i wouldn't want to waste his time, he's a great guy truly is, but i feel like our personalities are miles apart and I'm not sure if this is a good thing or not? I feel like he's more opposite from me. Im more talkative and hyper than him and he's more quiet and not too talkative. I just do enjoy the fact that he is a gentlemen and doesn't expect anything, he seems very understanding as well.

 

My friends have told me to give him a chance since I haven't been with anyone, but would that be settling? i mean I'm not going to marry the guy or anything, but i just really am not feeling the chemistry and it seems we are completely different idk.

was looking for some friendly advice from an outside perspective, i just like having some friendly company even if its distant at the moment with no serious commitment since I'm so busy with things (work etc.)but at the same time i don't want to waste my time.

[oldshirt]

When the right one comes along, no one is ever "too busy."

[down hearted]

When the right one comes along, no one is ever "too busy."

 

you're right, but i am really busy monday through sunday I'm a full time student and i also work full time so my only free time was during my summer break from class, but since thats over now i really have a jammed packed schedule. I just don't know how to change our conversations in a way to keep it more engaging, i think he's a great guy.

[JewelD]

You're not that interested so what's the point? Time spent with this guy is time that could be spent doing things you really enjoy that could lead to you meeting the right guy.

 

You have friends so you already have friendly company. No need to continue dating a guy you're not really into.

[Romantic Gentleman]

You pretty much answered your own question. There will be nice/good guys out there, but if things don't feel right, and the chemistry isn't clicking, then you know it's time to move on