boss31 Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 Here goes. We was together 4 and a half years, lived together for the most of that with her grandparents, yeah moved in pretty quick because of distance. But we shared so many memories and I was with her through the most difficult time in her life when her papaw passed away, which was basically her dad. But about 2 months ago she started acting distant and she had just got a new job and I felt as if something was weird, well weeks went by and she continued to act the same way, and eventually out of no where she told me that she wanted space one day before work, and it hurt me and I left. She was in shock and couldn't believe i actually left and went to my moms plae. So when I left everything we obviously still talked and it felt as if we was still together, but we was arguing. Then one night she finally tells me that she had been sending pics to a girl, and that she did it just as a distraction. She has never even thought about being gay. But it still hurt me and i freaked out for a good week, after that I had a job interview and she agreed to take me and things felt as if maybe we could fix this....WRONG. I came to her house and she was getting ready to take me and was on her phone, I asked "who you talking to?" She didnt want to say, then I took it and found out that she was talking to her friend about another guy and her friend was telling her how great of a guy he would be for her, and they work together. So I was hurt again, but she kepted telling me "I want you, i want what we have, just fight for me and give me time". Well i left her house and was literally going crazy, I ended up making a mistake and downloading a dating app,but deleted it probably a half hour later, i just couldn't imagine myself with someone else, but downloaded it out of anger. She found out, a friend of hers saw me on it and told her, i freaked out and went to her house begging her to forgive me and to stop all of this and that i loved her, nothing worked. She did however say "there is no way I want you right now after that, maybe in the future though. So after that I thought i never would hear from her again, WRONG.. the next day she texts me "So your gonna give up that easily?" and I just ignored it. But we kepted talking. Then a couple weeks after that she messages me saying "Do you really think we could still be together?" I said I believe if its meant to be it will be. Then she replied "But you said if i have sex with someone else then you wouldnt be able to take me back" I said... yeah it would be very difficult...have you? She said "No, but I do have a boyfriend" Then i replied and said well I cant be your friend (whick is what she desperately wanted) because I always wanted something much more with you, if you ever get back to that then message me, then I blocked her from messaging me. Fast forward 7 days later and she adds me back on facebook (she deleted me when i blocked her from messanger) she told me she needed my payment on insurance and after that I tried talking to her to be nice, nope she just started bring back up out problems. So after that I told her "I need some space, and that I think we shouldnt talk" then she said "I dont need anything else to say to you" and day or so goes by and she still messaging me, and i stupidly replied, but after that a few days goes by and she calls me about her email or something and we didnt argue or fight and after the call I even messaged her a little bit, but after that day I officially started on what I'm doing now No Contact, and about 5 days went buy to begin and she messaged me and I ignored her, she has been coming up with excuses to message me and I continue to ignore her, and she even tagged me in a post on facebook about a relationship and i ignored it. I'm on day 15 of no contact and about day 12 she called and I ignored it. Then Day 13 she texts me asking if I have a girlfriend and I ignored it. My question to you guys is it to late? We have been broken up for 2 months exactly now and i started no contact 15 days ago. In away I want her back, i miss her, but i want her to fight. She had a right to end the relationship, I stopped doing things i should have done and so did she, but i still love her so much, even though she is with someone else. Another thing is it seems as if she is hiding the relationship, she is not posting anything about it on facebook,other then today for the first time she made a new twitter and made a post saying "My boyfriend > Yours". But did i do the right thing by starting to just ignore her completely and basically cutting the safety blanket? Any help would be appreciated...Thanks I'll add what I believe happen is I freaked out early on and was needy and basically forced her to have grass is greener on the other side syndrome, so she started what I hope is a rebound relationship. She still has me on facebook and all of our pictures up. I just hope I'm doing the right thing and she don't start hatting me because of me ignoring her. She just texted me again after no texts yesterday. She just said "You have a letter here from your job" Should I break NC and just answer with a straight forward answer? Have been ignoring her for 15 days now. If I do break NC and she asks why have you been ignoring me, what should I say? Thanks for any kind of help.
Author boss31 Posted August 26, 2016 Author Posted August 26, 2016 Just would like to know if it's too late or what I should do from here on out to get her back?
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