spriggan2 Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 This happened months ago and its been bugging the heck out of me. I dated this girl from June to December and she dumped me a few days after new year's. She had moved to another city in September and the long distance hurt things. However I was absolutely crazy about her and still am. I kind of saw her as the mother of my children. I kept the no contact up, however she wasn't as disciplined. So about once a month she would contact me and we'd have an argument or a catch up session. In March, 3 months after the breakup, she told me we was coming to my city in April for a weekend. Obviously she wanted me to ask for a meetup, but I didn't bite. We made no plans to see each other, and even further, I had no idea what weekend she was coming. Then would you believe this. April came. I was out with my friend on a Friday evening grabbing dinner at an outdoor shopping center. After we'd grabbed our food and started driving toward an exit, my ex-gf crosses the street at the crosswalk right in front of us. This is a city that has a greater population of about 3 million people, and we weren't even downtown or anything. It was off in a random neighborhood where I don't even live. And I'd never been there with her before. Obviously after I regained my nerves I went to talk to her, and she was freaked out when she saw me as well. My friend said he thinks it's a sign that we were meant to be together. So does my ex. I think it might have had something to do with the fact that I was high, or maybe incredibly strong attraction has like psychic powers or something. I've actually been googling stuff on it. Has anyone heard anything like this? About attraction or love having like random influences or anything? I mean what kind of coincidence is that? She had not been back to my city one time since she had moved away in September, and this was a permanent move. I still don't know what to make of it. It was absolutely crazy. I thought I share here to see if anyone has any ideas.
Romantic Gentleman Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 Fate. Crazy how life works huh? I'm only in my 20's, but I've bumped into friends I haven't seen in years at random places, but for your situation, maybe it's a sign to rekindle the flame.
Gemma1 Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 Do you realize how many people have been in a similar situation and NOT bumped into their exes? Probabilities, man. Learn about 'em. 2
Blanco Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 So, wait. Your ex wants you to move to where she is now?
Toodaloo Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 I bumped into a guy I met at an airport at another airport a couple of years later... First time we shared drinks in the bar as our flights had been delayed. Second time we were waiting to pick someone up, different flights but same landing gate... I have met friends from college in random shops in different countries while on holiday. I have met exes in towns and cities that are miles and miles from where they life or work randomly... Its one of those things. You can read all you want into it. Or you can just accept that sometimes you see people you know in strange places. 2
HumanMachine Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 You randomly bump into your ex and you think it's some 'sign' that you should be together? 1
smudge21 Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 So you see one "sign" that you should be together but ignore all the other obvious real signs that you shouldn't. The relationship didn't work out and she dumped you. You followed the NC guide and that, as always, made her reach out to you as her ego was bruised (most dumpers expect to be chased). If you want to get back with her then ignore "signs" and focus on facts. Remember that she dumped you so tread carefully. Personally, she had her chance and tossed it away. Now it's someone else's chance to have your love - go find them instead. 3
sc0316 Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 From your other threads, your ex-gf mistreated you and was quite selfish to you, why would you want to continue to be used by her at her liberty? Next time she contacts you, just answer slowly and briefly. Don't get into any conversations with her. It's not fair to your current gf anyway (or is she your gf?). 1
Redhead14 Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 This happened months ago and its been bugging the heck out of me. I dated this girl from June to December and she dumped me a few days after new year's. She had moved to another city in September and the long distance hurt things. However I was absolutely crazy about her and still am. I kind of saw her as the mother of my children. I kept the no contact up, however she wasn't as disciplined. So about once a month she would contact me and we'd have an argument or a catch up session. In March, 3 months after the breakup, she told me we was coming to my city in April for a weekend. Obviously she wanted me to ask for a meetup, but I didn't bite. We made no plans to see each other, and even further, I had no idea what weekend she was coming. Then would you believe this. April came. I was out with my friend on a Friday evening grabbing dinner at an outdoor shopping center. After we'd grabbed our food and started driving toward an exit, my ex-gf crosses the street at the crosswalk right in front of us. This is a city that has a greater population of about 3 million people, and we weren't even downtown or anything. It was off in a random neighborhood where I don't even live. And I'd never been there with her before. Obviously after I regained my nerves I went to talk to her, and she was freaked out when she saw me as well. My friend said he thinks it's a sign that we were meant to be together. So does my ex. I think it might have had something to do with the fact that I was high, or maybe incredibly strong attraction has like psychic powers or something. I've actually been googling stuff on it. Has anyone heard anything like this? About attraction or love having like random influences or anything? I mean what kind of coincidence is that? She had not been back to my city one time since she had moved away in September, and this was a permanent move. I still don't know what to make of it. It was absolutely crazy. I thought I share here to see if anyone has any ideas. I mean what kind of coincidence is that? -- A coincidence, is a coincidence . . . there aren't different kinds of coincidences. She had not been back to my city one time since she had moved away in September In March, 3 months after the breakup, she told me we was coming to my city in April for a weekend She had been to your city since the break up and now was there again for some reason which had nothing to do with you. I saw an old friend from high school whom I had not seen since graduation while golfing in Myrtle Beach a couple of years ago (roughly 900 miles from where I live), I did not feel inclined to believe it was destiny. I was golfing in Myrtle Beach and so was he . . .
mortensorchid Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 So you see it as a sign that you and her should be together. Has anything happened since then? As in have you had any kind of contact? If not, then... Not exactly. I had a former friend who was/is delusional, she believes she is going to someday be with Nick Rhodes from Duran Duran. She is a crazy person, however, it's not destiny. She posted nasty comments on his gf's Instagram account which is the most direct contact she has had with him (which isn't very).
Author spriggan2 Posted August 26, 2016 Author Posted August 26, 2016 I mean what kind of coincidence is that? -- A coincidence, is a coincidence . . . there aren't different kinds of coincidences. Coincidences are categorized by the odds. Extreme down to simple. There are coincidences that are much less likely to happen than others, based on all the alignments that have to occur and their probabilities. In March, 3 months after the breakup, she told me we was coming to my city in April for a weekend. She had been to your city since the break up and now was there again for some reason which had nothing to do with you. She had not been to my city. She told me she was coming via text. Not in person. She left my city in September and did not come back until April, for three measly days. True, she came for reasons that had nothing to do with me, but this makes our chance meeting all the more unlikely. Then she left again and has never been back and will most likely never come back, unless we decide to get back together or something. I think you guys are really downplaying the absurdity of this. I too have bumped into people randomly. But this is undeniably very different. This is my one and only ex-gf, who moved away from my city, one of the 30 largest cities in the US. She comes back for one weekend in her life, and walks right across my car at the precise moment I hit the cross walk, in a random shopping plaza we hadn't been to together. Someone asked think of all the times it doesn't happen. First of all the scenario itself is relatively peculiar. Someone who's ex is making a one time return to a city she left for one weekend. And yes I realize the many times it hasn't happened, and yes it is technically a coincidence. But you have to understand how I'd be frazzled by a coincidence as unlikely to occur as this one. This is what makes me (halfheartedly) search for a deeper meaning. And on top of that both of us wanted to see each other because that would be our only chance to meet. We hadn't put each other out of our minds and randomly bumped into each other. That entire month I had been thinking to myself "is this the weekend she's going to be in my city." And I'm sure she had been thinking "should I call him and tell him I'm here." But chance just brought us together without either of us having to take action. It's just so freaking bizarre to me.
Author spriggan2 Posted August 26, 2016 Author Posted August 26, 2016 So you see it as a sign that you and her should be together. Has anything happened since then? As in have you had any kind of contact? Well I left that bit out of the story because I was just wanting to get people's reaction to the meeting itself. But for those who are curious, yes we met up intentionally two other times that weekend and talked and rekindled the flame to an extent. Since then we've been maintaining contact on and off. I'd like to say that chance meeting made a difference, but I don't know if she would have texted me to ask for a meet up anyway. It certainly made things way more romantic lol.
Author spriggan2 Posted August 26, 2016 Author Posted August 26, 2016 From your other threads, your ex-gf mistreated you and was quite selfish to you, why would you want to continue to be used by her at her liberty? Things have improved dramatically since then. And girl #2 apparently hadn't gotten over her ex either. We are no longer an item.
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