Author NIGHT1985 Posted August 26, 2016 Author Posted August 26, 2016 (edited) I get where you guys are going with these responses, but I was extremely excited and into this girl. No, I didn't come off as desperate, but I definitely shut off any pain I had from my past break up while we were out. It would be one thing if I noticed this woman was bored, or seemed uninterested, but she never once pulled out her phone or acted bored. We constantly had something to laugh and talk about. I highly doubt she wanted free food/drink. She only ordered a small coffee at Starbucks, and a beer with bread pudding at the bar. Hardly anything taxing on the wallet. But there's no point getting bent out of shape over this, she has every right to decide if someone isn't right for her, as we all do. And yes, it only stings so much right now cause I'm dealing with rejection of my last break up, so it isn't doing anything for my self esteem, which has already been dragged through the dirt Edited August 26, 2016 by NIGHT1985
smackie9 Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 Yea I feel like she should of just ended it after coffee, she knew at that point that she wasn't attracted to the point of dating, so she should of called it a night. I'm not bitter, but I have enough respect for people to end the date at an appropriate time into it, if I know I don't wanna see that person again, on that level She did find you attractive enough to continue with the date and give a little more time to see if there would be some chemistry. So she didn't waste your time.
Author NIGHT1985 Posted August 26, 2016 Author Posted August 26, 2016 She did find you attractive enough to continue with the date and give a little more time to see if there would be some chemistry. So she didn't waste your time. You're right. But something I forgot to mention, during the date, she through our little nods to getting together again like "we should get together and watch this show", or "I'll have to take you to this place sometime". But I guess even then she was referring to those meet ups as only "friendly"
insert_name Posted August 26, 2016 Posted August 26, 2016 You're right. But something I forgot to mention, during the date, she through our little nods to getting together again like "we should get together and watch this show", or "I'll have to take you to this place sometime". But I guess even then she was referring to those meet ups as only "friendly" That is the stuff I find really unforgivable- there is just no need for 'future faking' as it's called. They simply don't need to do it. Sadly people will say anything if it greases the wheels of social interaction, especially when on a date. 2
gaius Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 I can look into my girlfriends eyes and tell pretty quickly whether she's turned on, turned off, what she's feeling. I've been able to since the first moment I laid my eyes on her. It's called being able to read and feel another human being. And at the end of the day, as a man, it's your responsibility when you're on a date with a woman. If you're dragging her all over town emptying your wallet thinking she's turned on when she's really not then that's your issue, not hers. It's not her responsibility as a woman to take command and end the date if she's not feeling attracted. She's not the leader, you are. It seems to be a chronic problem, guys not being able to read women at all. Thinking just because a check out girl smiles at them that she's interested or being totally shocked when they don't hear from a woman again after a date they thought was going well. Next time don't even worry about anything other than looking into her eyes, feeling what she's feeling and responding appropriately. Let yourself go and connect dammit. 1
preraph Posted August 29, 2016 Posted August 29, 2016 Well, maybe she just wasn't sure yet after coffee. Who knows. At least she was straightforward. Better luck next time.
PogoStick Posted August 30, 2016 Posted August 30, 2016 You have 2 choices after being friend zoned. 1. Accept her as a friend and realize good things can come from that. Having a strong, attractive female friend can do wonders for your love life. She'll bring other great women into your life in various ways and you'll automatically have a foot in the door with them. If you already have a healthy social life then you can skip all that. 2. Suck up your dignity and tell her you're not interested in being friends. It's important in having confidence and faith in yourself to drop a girl who doesn't fit into your life the way you want. 3. Never do #3. Accept her friend request because you'll take whatever part of her you can get. Lie in wait, hoping that some day she'll grow deeper feelings for you. Never!
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