americanidiot Posted August 25, 2016 Posted August 25, 2016 (edited) I always notice this girl looking at me ( im a girl too).. Whenever I get near her she tries to make long-ish eye contact with me...she is very quiet and we barely get to speak.. I only see her talking to one other girl and a guy who is gay. The 1st time she spoke to me was a few weeks ago.. I handed her jewlery for a customer and she smiled at me and said "Is this for me?". The 2nd she was asking me questions about how long i've worked there and if i liked it..and the other night we actually wound up being alone in the break room. As I walked past she looked at me from head to toe and gave me a drug out heeeyyy. I sat across the way, but i noticed her continuing to peek over. I noticed her friends sort of paying more attention to me.. the girl she was with actually said hi to me, which was odd . I'm just nervous because what if it just turns out she is straight after all. Some straight girls do this stuff, sadly. I want to give her my # tomorrow because after that, i wont see her for another 2 weeks. What do you think.?. I feel like im in the clear, but keep having on and off doubts. im confused. Also, things always feel tense between us because I feel nervous and I think she feels nervous...to the point where we never even usually say hi to eachother, just stare. because speaking is intimidating. :/ Edited August 25, 2016 by americanidiot
smudge21 Posted August 25, 2016 Posted August 25, 2016 If this was a guy asking about a girl, the response would always be for the guy to get her number and then take the lead to get in touch and make the first move. However, I'll be honest I'm not sure how that rule applies here. From what you say, it sounds like she's pretty much leading this journey but not taking it to the next step. So that means it may be down to you to move things forward otherwise they may stay in limbo forever. I get the whole nerves thing when it comes to approaching a stranger, but I reckon you need to jump in feet first and see what happens. Yeah, just like anyone else, you could end up getting let down, but the alternative is to do nothing and regret it later on... .. and that's the biggest thing. In life it's always the things you don't do that you regret, as opposed to what you do do. Yeah we all screw up and make a fool out of ourselves occasionally, make stupid mistakes etc and we regret them. But from experience that feeling of regret that comes from wishing I'd done this, that or the other is so much worse and lives with you the longest. I can't tell you the amount of times I've not asked a girl out when the situation has been like yours. Sometimes you just have to take a chance and think what's the worse that can happen - she says no... well, there you go, move on, no harm done.
Author americanidiot Posted August 31, 2016 Author Posted August 31, 2016 so, i gave her my number .. now its just like playing a game of she likes me/she likes me not..This post may get long... but I need to add some details.. but Id deeply appreciate anyones imput.. I was too shy to personally give her my #, so I got my friend to do it.. Bare in mind this girl I like We'll call her Tina, barely knows me or this girl..however, she texts me anyway, we mainly talk about work and netflix and food.. However, today one of her friends came up to me and asked how old I was.. I never spoke to her friend before..I told her my age and she said oh ok, I just wanted to make sure you werent older than you look.. I find that odd.. I asked Tina if her friend knew we were talking and she said no. i just find that odd. I notcied her other friends kinda paying more attention to me too, prior, like before i even gave her my #...I have no idea whats going on.. Sometimes she only sends me 1 word texts, other times shes all interested wanting to know more about me.. I sent her a snap on snapchat of my pets and she didnt answer ( how can you not answer cute animals lol) and she never views my story... I feel like shes either not interested but than idk why she even texted me, a complete stranger when a complete stranger gave her my #.. or shes interested, but trying to hide it.. what do you think?
pteromom Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Tough one. She could be interested. She could just want to be friends. You have to get out from behind the screen and do something in person. It doesn't have to be a "date"... just time together to scope things out and get some clarity. Is there a place near you that has a good band to go see? Tell her you want to go and ask if she wants to go with you. In person, you'll know more and can see what happens. And - I know this is crazy, but not everyone responds to cute animals. I wouldn't read anything into that. Good luck!
pteromom Posted August 31, 2016 Posted August 31, 2016 Oh and - good for you for giving her your number! I like your courage! Keep it up! If it doesn't work in this situation, it will certainly help you in the future!
Author americanidiot Posted September 4, 2016 Author Posted September 4, 2016 I saw her in person the other day at work.. She greeted me with a hug and kept talking about the stuff we would talk about in text and snapchat.. I always hint for her to watch netflix with me and eat food because we both love them 2 things so why not do them together.. But she never says anything in response. and continues the conversation as if she didnt see that piece of imput. BUT LAST NIGHT. I asked her if she would stare at me, and she said she did, and it was because she didnt want to bother me and wanted to speak to me and didnt know how. mmm.
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