Kristine Posted August 25, 2016 Posted August 25, 2016 The guy who said I love you 2 days after meeting me. Ignores me basically. What gives? At first I was like OK time to learn my job. He does have a long term girlfriend. Even took a zillion vacations, summer after all. But still he talks to people around me, people I talk to, but barely more than hi to me. The day he returned from his summer hiatus. I get a promotion. Coinsidence? I see him more and actually almost literally bump into him at times. My mom has decided to apply there. He is the trainer. HR emails saying she will be contacted for next training class. I'm surprised. But my guess mom wants to figure out situation and he wants to meet my mom. No mention of interview.
sooshi Posted August 25, 2016 Posted August 25, 2016 A guy says he loves you TWO DAYS after meeting you. Ignores you, basically. He has a long-term girlfriend. He talks to people around you, but barely [says] more than hi to you. I'm not sure what the appeal of this guy is. He just sounds like a bag of red flags to me. Your post isn't very clear, but it seems like he's your boss. Don't get involved with him romantically. First off, he's your boss (if I'm understanding this correctly). Second, he has a girlfriend. A long-term girlfriend. This means he's in a relationship. A committed relationship. If he's telling you he loves you, then he's cheating on his girlfriend. And... telling you that after only two days of knowing you? Puh-leeze. Why do these things not sound off alarm bells for you? 3
MidwestUSA Posted August 25, 2016 Posted August 25, 2016 Why, oh why, would your mom want to be involved in this? That's just weird. This has been a fishy situation since you started this job. If I were you, I'd make sure I had another lined up. No good is coming from this. Sorry. 3
CarrieT Posted August 25, 2016 Posted August 25, 2016 The guy who said I love you 2 days after meeting me. Giant red flag there. He doesn't even KNOW you after two days.... My mom has decided to apply there. He is the trainer. HR emails saying she will be contacted for next training class. I'm surprised. But my guess mom wants to figure out situation and he wants to meet my mom. No mention of interview. Huh!?!? Why are you - and your Mom, of all people? - all so involved in this drama when there is nothing to figure out? 1
xxoo Posted August 25, 2016 Posted August 25, 2016 The guy who said I love you 2 days after meeting me. Ignores me basically. What gives? Maybe he realized you were taking his joking seriously and appropriately distanced himself. Your mom is getting involved?!? 1
Redhead14 Posted August 25, 2016 Posted August 25, 2016 The guy who said I love you 2 days after meeting me. Ignores me basically. What gives? At first I was like OK time to learn my job. He does have a long term girlfriend. Even took a zillion vacations, summer after all. But still he talks to people around me, people I talk to, but barely more than hi to me. The day he returned from his summer hiatus. I get a promotion. Coinsidence? I see him more and actually almost literally bump into him at times. My mom has decided to apply there. He is the trainer. HR emails saying she will be contacted for next training class. I'm surprised. But my guess mom wants to figure out situation and he wants to meet my mom. No mention of interview. Your post is confusing, however, a guy who tells you they love you 2 days after they meet you is either blowing smoke up your rear-end in order to have sex with you or isn't seriously telling you he loves you, he's using it for emphasis or a high compliment. What was going on at the time he said he loved you?
MidwestUSA Posted August 25, 2016 Posted August 25, 2016 Your post is confusing, however, a guy who tells you they love you 2 days after they meet you is either blowing smoke up your rear-end in order to have sex with you or isn't seriously telling you he loves you, he's using it for emphasis or a high compliment. What was going on at the time he said he loved you? IIRC, he was training her at work. Might be her boss? 1
Shanex Posted August 25, 2016 Posted August 25, 2016 Leave mommy out of this seriously. You can handle this by yourself as an adult. Yet this guy is a weirdo, no doubt. Ive never said the L word after two days.
Author Kristine Posted August 26, 2016 Author Posted August 26, 2016 IIRC, he was training her at work. Might be her boss? Exactly. I was looking in he eyes in a conversational way. Out of no where he proclaims I love you. Days later. You have changed my life. It was not a game but because he is involved I'm not about to be breaking up his relationship. I did not let him think he got to me. But he really really did. Now I'm in a place where I almost literally bump into him. It's not easy. I liked him after day 1 . He said something about his life that made me think I wanted to get to know him. Than I found out about girlfriend day 3. It's very hard honestly and makes me sad. I really don't want him to break up with his girlfriend because im pretty much opposite in everyway. He would resent me at somepoint. I'm treated well at work even promoted to an elite department. Love the job itself. But he's put me where I see him, hear him, almost bump into him. But still he doesn't really say anything more than hi or how are you. Yet full conversations with everyone else. Especially beautiful young women I happen to sit near. As many know I'm recovering from a hellish relationship. My health even took a toll honestly. I was not expecting anything like this to happen when I accepted the job. Now I'm fragile emotionally really. But the world doesn't see that they see sunshine and smiles. But I try to focus on work. I want to succeed. It's just hard.
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