Boyfriend left his underwear at my house...why??

[flordagirl]

I just started dating a new guy about 2 weeks ago & last night was the first time he spent the night at my place. He slept naked, and instead of putting his underwear back on this morning, he left them on my floor. He claims he forgot them.

 

I've never heard of men doing this sort of thing; usually it's women.

I'm even more nervous now because I think he lied to me a couple of days ago when I asked him if he'd ever had sex with other men.

His response was "EWWW! Does that answer your question??" (um, no it doesn't.)

Him leaving his underwear was the perfect opportunity to check for evidence of bisexual activity. I checked his underwear and found a dark spot in the back, near the rectum area. Should I consider this a sign of gay sex?? And why would he intentionally leave his underwear at my place?

[MidwestUSA]

Well, I can tell you what that dark spot is, and it's not necessarily evidence of butt sex!

 

As for leaving them, who knows? Maybe he often goes commando, and it's a habit. My H does it now and then, drops them wherever. I don't inspect or sniff, I wash them.

[SunnySide0418]

I just started dating a new guy about 2 weeks ago & last night was the first time he spent the night at my place. He slept naked, and instead of putting his underwear back on this morning, he left them on my floor. He claims he forgot them.

 

I've never heard of men doing this sort of thing; usually it's women.

I'm even more nervous now because I think he lied to me a couple of days ago when I asked him if he'd ever had sex with other men.

His response was "EWWW! Does that answer your question??" (um, no it doesn't.)

Him leaving his underwear was the perfect opportunity to check for evidence of bisexual activity. I checked his underwear and found a dark spot in the back, near the rectum area. Should I consider this a sign of gay sex?? And why would he intentionally leave his underwear at my place?

 

I'm wondering why you asked him if he ever had sex with men?? That's an odd question I think. Does he seem gay or something?

[Bialy]

Skidmarks are a sign of MM sex...? Seriously...? I hope you're joking because that's the most ridiculous thing I've read today.

[flordagirl]

I'm wondering why you asked him if he ever had sex with men?? That's an odd question I think. Does he seem gay or something?

 

• Well...first off, he's got a really soft voice, like Michael Jackson. Actually, he likes to sing Michael Jackson songs.
  
• When I asked him if he'd ever had sex with men, his response was "Ewww! Does that answer your question?" I never had a man respond to that question before by saying "Ewww". Felt like i was getting a response from a girl for a second.
  
• The other night we were watching a music video (Drake "Hold On, We're Going Home"). I told him the white guy in that video is Hermione (Emma Watson)'s boyfriend. My guy was very particular about how this dude in the video looked...he asked me if the guy was wearing eyeshadow and said the guy looked "effeminate"...
  
• Sometimes I feel like he's trying too hard...for example on only our second date he immediately reached for my hand to hold it while we walked. Less than 2 weeks later and he's saying "Mine" and joking about us getting married when we're in bed, although he didn't even know my last name.
  
• Whenever we have sex he says he only cares about pleasing me & his pleasure is unimportant. He also said getting a blowjob is no big deal to him. That was the very first time a straight (?) guy has ever brushed off the idea of a girl giving him head.
  

[flordagirl]

Skidmarks are a sign of MM sex...? Seriously...? I hope you're joking because that's the most ridiculous thing I've read today.

 

Where did I say skidmarks? ONE spot is not "skidmarks". There is a difference between the two.

[MidwestUSA]

Where did I say skidmarks? ONE spot is not "skidmarks". There is a difference between the two.

 

How would either one indicate anal sex?

 

You got a guy who doesn't wipe thoroughly. That should be your concern.

[Pyro]

Where did I say skidmarks? ONE spot is not "skidmarks". There is a difference between the two.

 

There's only one sure way to find out: scratch and sniff.

 

Report back to us your findings.

[SammySammy]

The bottom line is this dude is nasty. Who cares what it means? Anybody who would leave sh*t stained drawz at your house is not someone you want to be with.

[Ami1uwant]

• Well...first off, he's got a really soft voice, like Michael Jackson. Actually, he likes to sing Michael Jackson songs.
  
• When I asked him if he'd ever had sex with men, his response was "Ewww! Does that answer your question?" I never had a man respond to that question before by saying "Ewww". Felt like i was getting a response from a girl for a second.
  
• The other night we were watching a music video (Drake "Hold On, We're Going Home"). I told him the white guy in that video is Hermione (Emma Watson)'s boyfriend. My guy was very particular about how this dude in the video looked...he asked me if the guy was wearing eyeshadow and said the guy looked "effeminate"...
  
• Sometimes I feel like he's trying too hard...for example on only our second date he immediately reached for my hand to hold it while we walked. Less than 2 weeks later and he's saying "Mine" and joking about us getting married when we're in bed, although he didn't even know my last name.
  
• Whenever we have sex he says he only cares about pleasing me & his pleasure is unimportant. He also said getting a blowjob is no big deal to him. That was the very first time a straight (?) guy has ever brushed off the idea of a girl giving him head.
  

 

He may be effeminate....he might have gay tendancies. Unsure your ages and how he was raised.

 

The things you mention doesn't register as him being gay. Other characteristics might say he nay be gay.

 

The stain on his underwear doesn't mean he had anal sex.

 

A test to fo, with sex start playing with is behind snd see how he reacts to it. Get a strap on.

[Gloria25]

Wow, I ran across this thread after leaving the "snooping" thread.

 

Maybe there's a reason.

 

Ummm..

 

 

Ok, if you have all these suspicions about this guy, life is too short, confront it or move on.

[LostOnes05]

Where did I say skidmarks? ONE spot is not "skidmarks". There is a difference between the two.

 

Was it a spot or a streak? He could have hemorrhoids and had a little blood spot if it became irritated from wiping his butt. Either way, he may have to start washing his butt after defecating instead of just wiping. I don't know about the forgetting to put the underwear back on. That's a bit weird to me, as it is certainly a different feel going commando and wearing boxer briefs...one that would alert you to something missing.

[Robert]

Moderation is reviewing...in the best interests of other members to stop off-topic commenting.....

 

Thank you (I would add to not be a PITA, but my sense of humor got called out already) ~ V

[TXGuy]

when I asked him if he'd ever had sex with other men.

His response was "EWWW! Does that answer your question??" (um, no it doesn't.)

Him leaving his underwear was the perfect opportunity to check for evidence of bisexual activity. I checked his underwear and found a dark spot in the back, near the rectum area. Should I consider this a sign of gay sex??

 

edit: someone else beat me to it.