I messed up and make a mistake

[Kirstya1989]

I was with my partner for 2 years. He moved in with me and my family after 8 months.

We had a massive argument over something so silly which was the fact that I had called him darling which he said is inappropriate to call your partner that even though I have always called him that. The next few days things were very awkward between us. So that Thursday night when he came home from work I though I I'll ask him what's going on and if we're OK. Well that didn't go to plan he said he didn't want to talk when he just come in to work and I should choose my times. That was really the only time I could talk to him. But it ended in a massive augment which he got very nasty towards me with out going in to it so I kicked him out.

 

After a few days of no contact he started calling me. I couldn't contact him tho as he had blocked me. I was missing him and I realised I messed up big time. I asked him if he wanted to meet up he said he was busy. He was ringing me 12 - 13 times a day I then bumped in to him and I asked him if he wanted to get back together he said no we don't work I said ok well could you leave me alone then. I was upset. He still wouldn't leave me alone still ringing me I was getting really mixed signals and feeling messed about we had another augment cuz he wouldn't leave me alone and he said well I was giving us another chance and I said to him well when I asked you about us on a number of times you told me you didn't want too that it was over and he kept twisting it saying that I was thick if I couldn't see that he was giving us another chance. He then left me alone for a few days. 2 weeks has passed since we broke up and I found out he was going on a date with another woman I rang him and asked him about it he deny it even tho I had prof. He kept saying to me what do you want and I said you know what I want and he turned around and said well I need time again I asked to see him and again he said he was busy. A few hours later he rang me and said he was sorry and admit it that he was meeting that girl but he had cancelled her so again I asked if I can see him and he said he would let me know.

 

A week went past with no contact then he messaged me asking for my number as he had lost it. We had a long chat on the phone he even told me he had been on a few dates but they ain't worked out. Then he asked me what I wanted and I said I don't know and that I was very split course I want him back but on the other to much has happened I told him I was sorry and I made a mistake and that I wished things could go back to the way they was I asked him what he wanted and he said the same that he was split and too much has happened and he needed time and that he still loves me but he's not sure if he wants me so he said maybe we could see how we go and see if we can build anything back.

 

Well that was 4 days ago now and I still don't know where I stand he's ringing me 3-4 times a day like he used to when we was together one min he's being loving like we were when we was together then next he's being cold and harsh he hasn't asked to see me or anything and he's on dating sites talking to other people.

 

One min I think we are good the next min I think he's using me I don't know what to do I want him back but I don't know how to get him back. When I ask all I get is I need time

[JewelD]

You kicked him out and now he's seeing other women. Why do you want him back?? Move on with your life and find someone new.

[LaurenP15]

It sounds like he's giving you mixed signals. Why would you want him back if he's dating other people while calling you 12 times a day? This sounds a little fishy; like he's trying to keep you nearby in case these dates don't work out.

[preraph]

He was already probably seeing another woman or about to or what other possible reason could he have for getting mad you called him darling? That's psycho. And then on top of that he calls you stupid or thick. He's abusive! Controlling and abusive. Be rid of him! He's not nice!