hurtagain2 Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 My story is this. 3months ago I got chatting on Facebook to an old friend. We met up and started a relationship. We saw each other 2 to 3 times a week, work permitting. I work shifts and he works days. We texted constantly and talked non stop when together. Got on so well everything seemed perfect. He sent me flowers all the time and said how great he thought I was. Always wanted to see more of me . We met each other's families. All was just perfect until.....I noticed a pic of a girl on his phone. He said she was from a dating site he was on before he met me. Fair enough. So I said why keep it on if you don't even know her, she wasn't a friend. I didn't make a fuss and left it at that. Two days later he ends it saying he can't deal with my insecurities. Up until then everything was perfect. He said it's not working and he isn't "feeling it". Gutted to say the least. That was yesterday morning via phone call and I've heard nothing since. Any thoughts would be appreciated. (He is definitely not in touch with girl in photo)xx
JewelD Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 How would you know who he's in touch with? He probably was seeing other women and realized you were catching on. Some men will string you along anyway, others split once the interrogations and arguments start. And they don't feel about it because you're not the only person they're talking to. They can afford to cut somebody from the team. Time to move on. 6
juniorrocha Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 Exactly what JewelD said. If a guy really wanted to be with you, they wouldn't dump you just because of that situation. That's stupid. Let him go, he's not worth it. Sometimes I wonder what's up with people nowadays, seriously. 1
LostOnes05 Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 I agree with JewelD on this. No possible way for you to know who he is talking to. There are so many apps now to chat with people, messages that disappear after a set time, etc. But either way it's pretty clear he had other options that were a priority.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 24, 2016 Posted August 24, 2016 How can you possibly confirm that he wasn't talking to her? It seems very likely that he was, and he got caught. So he bailed and blamed it on you. 1
BC1980 Posted August 24, 2016 Posted August 24, 2016 Gonna agree with everyone else. He got caught. Otherwise, he wouldn't have reacted like that. 1
spiderowl Posted August 24, 2016 Posted August 24, 2016 I'm sorry to hear this and you must be very hurt now. Whatever the story about the girl on his phone and what he said about your 'insecurities', he also said he 'wasn't feeling it'. This is more significant because unless he is feeling drawn to you, then nothing will be right. None of this is your fault, it is just something with him. Maybe he met someone else - who knows? It sounds like he could be one of those guys who comes on strong with romance and then fizzles out and moves on. I'm sure you will find someone who has staying power and isn't so fickle as this guy, so do not blame yourself in any way.
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