Persiancat Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 So I've had a male friend for years. Initially there was a lot of attraction from his end but not much from me. He found himself a gf and through it we stayed friends. And once he broke up, we just happened to hang out a lot. The thing is though i didnt see a long term relationship happening (he is much younger) yet i had a thing for him . I also am not wired for flings so i didn't do anything, and tried to keep it just friends . I tried keeping a distance but he kept getting frustrarted with me all the time. We would have a lot of fights over small things, mostly because i was not giving him enough attention. At one point, he talked to my best friend (female) about me and i think they had a discussion wherein she encouraged him to have a fling with me because she thought i needed some action. I had no idea about this. I meet up with him the next time and he gets really touchy and sleazy and asks for some fun time and makes a move on me. i get all awkward and ask him to stop. Now this guy gets really hurt, angry and embarassed and completeltly stops talking to me. And when i try talking to him, he gets really mean and cold. When i ask him if we can talk about, he refuses and continues being an ** to me for months. Obviously i get pissed off because firstly he just wanted some fun and then he's being a, *** to me because i said no? The friendship ended really badly. He keeps trying to fix things now but I'm so annoyed and hurt by everything. Need some advice here
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 Honestly, the first thing I'd do is smack your friend upside the head for encouraging him to make a move without your consent and putting your friendship with this guy at risk. As for the rest of it, if you really are good friends with him and sincerely care about each other than a conversation needs to be had once and for all if only to clear the air. 2
preraph Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 I would only add that if anything was going to happen between you two it would have happened long ago. You were both riding the fence, I think, so it was never going anywhere, and why lose a friend over a night of casual sex. You need to lay the blame squarely on your friend and if you both unite against her, maybe you can still be friends.
OldSoulBiz Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 And this is why, ladies and gentlemen, a guy can't have a girl just as a "friend." The only reason a guy is "friends" with a girl is because: A) He has a thing for her. B) She's a friend of a friend. In your case, it's A). So the solution to this is just to completely end this "friendship," because it isn't really a friendship, and the only reason he's with you is because he hopes that a day would come by where he can get with you.
Springsummer Posted August 24, 2016 Posted August 24, 2016 And this is why, ladies and gentlemen, a guy can't have a girl just as a "friend." The only reason a guy is "friends" with a girl is because: A) He has a thing for her. B) She's a friend of a friend. In your case, it's A). So the solution to this is just to completely end this "friendship," because it isn't really a friendship, and the only reason he's with you is because he hopes that a day would come by where he can get with you. oh...what's the case if a guy has tons of girls on his fb?
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