Swan89 Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 (edited) It goes like this: Previously hurt> Trust issues/fear of intimacy> Less emotionally available Emotional unavailability in new romance> Backfires, rejection Rejection> Being emotionally available to compensate (too much) in either current or another new romance > Rejection for being too nice> Hurt again Repeat Anyone ever dealt with this situation? Edited August 23, 2016 by Swan89
Wave Rider Posted August 25, 2016 Posted August 25, 2016 Yes. I think it has a lot to do with the partners you choose and the responses you elicit from them. Repetition compulsion causes us to re-create past traumas, so you may be attracted to people who can't ever give you what you need and who will inevitably hurt you. And sometimes people have a big "reject me" sign on their forehead, which may also be a repetition compulsion.
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