zoso909 Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Well here's a bit of a story that I would appreciate an opinion on. A girl at work has been expressing perceived interest in me for quite some time now. I suppose i just want some opinions, however critical, on the whole situation. If its any bearing, we're both in our late teens, just graduated from different high schools. Anyways, she frequently stares at me and spots me out from across the store. She frequently comes up to me to talk, and smiles, waves, etc. She talks to me in a very seductive manner. Probably the deepest sign she's given me went like this: I was on my way home walking out from the store, she was walking in. We pass and she says, "Have a good night", nonchalantly. I smile and continue walking. Then as she passes she turns and whispers, "Handsome..." It was so suttle I almost missed it, and it didn't hit me until I was in the parking lot. Now I'm fully aware of the head games girls use, but to do that to a guy she doesn't really know... Every time we work the same shift she goes out of her way to make me notice her. But the clincher is that I have done nothing at all to keep her interest. I never start conversations, approach her, go out of MY way to say hello or anything like that. Unless she starts it I never say a word to her other than polite "hellos". We've had a few conversations, and our first one turned out to be perfect chemistry. Frankly I find it quite remarkable. She is an attractive girl, confident and doesn't hang out with anyone she doesn't like. As for me, I've been told I'm a good-looking guy, i enjoy keeping to myself, intelligent, well-rounded. I'm not really too social to be sincere, I would rather do things on my own. I've never had a girlfriend before, never slept with anyone before, but its honestly due to my lack of desire for it all. I probably come off as being hard-to-get, and this isn't the first girl to display these signs towards me. I'm not really sure what my question is, pretty well just opinions on what one would do in this situation. Everyone I have talked to has told me straight out to go for it because she's asking for it. But for me it seems too easy. It honestly turns me off when a girl puts herself forward so much. She must be totally captivated by me, but how can she be if I haven't made any moves whatsoever? What is the potential for a lasting relationship? I guess I'm just looking for opinions on what could be going through her mind. I mean, I'm giving her extremely negative signs, and she refuses to turn away. What's happening here? Thanks for your input! Any and all is appreciated.
alex434 Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 She must really like you then, over all she might just be playing around, giving that friendly stance, however it seems as though shes into you! You need to approach the situation throw some signs back, use some of her own games, call her gorgeous or pretty just like she called you handsome, play around back and see if she bites, sitting there and playing a game of wait isnt going to do nothing for you. You need to step forward and make the next move, even possibly suggest a date? hang out with her during break? whatever it may be, go for it!
Zaira Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 For some it is the thrill of the chase. Or she may genuinely be wanting to get to know you. It's up to you. If you're flattered, don't do anything about it. If you want it to stop - ask her to stop. If you would like to pursue more, ask her out.
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