Author J dub Posted July 6, 2005 Author Posted July 6, 2005 Ok -- weird..I got to work and listened to my voicemails and he had left one yesterday (I had it off) and he was like (in a joking manner) "you didnt tell me you had today off? you mean I could have seen you all day long but instead youre out doing something else? Wow that hurts...I see though, thats cool. I'm not even gonna call your cellphone then, if you cant even tell me when you have vacation days. So there. Or maybe I will? I guess we'll see...I love you bye" WTF? He didnt call my cell because of THAT? Am I looking too far in to this or does it seem like he's still just not putting forth the effort?
Author J dub Posted July 6, 2005 Author Posted July 6, 2005 Never mind on that previous post. I sent him a text and the conversation went, Me: "I was in [another city] yesterday, you nut" Him: "that message was from like last week Nut" Me: "no way, from monday when I had it off?" Him "im not sure, it was the same day I left a similar message on your cell phone" UGHHHH So anotherwords, he still hasnt bothered to contact me
Kat Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Originally posted by J dub UGHHHH So anotherwords, he still hasnt bothered to contact me So why are you wasting so much time on this guy? After three years you would think that you two would be closer or at least talk face to face rather than sms'ing each other. Do you know where he works? You had yesterday off? Why didn't you go see him? This just doesn't sit right with me and I don't know why.
Author J dub Posted July 6, 2005 Author Posted July 6, 2005 I didnt have yesterday off all to myself, I was working in another city. I dont know why I sent a stupid text message, I hate myself for doing it now because I really want to talk to him. I just feel like an idiot now because I was wrong - he hadnt left that message yesterday
Kat Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 hey don't read me wrong, I am not having a go at you AT ALL I just think that a relationship should get to a point where it isn't about not looking like an idiot or making sure that your actions are perfect. After three years you shouldn't worry about making a fool out of yourself when it comes to contacting your partner or even making it known that you miss him. If I was you I would bite the bullet and go down to his work (he works nights, yes?) and ask when he can get a break, then go for a coffee or shopping or something until he is free and then talk to him. Or even better, find out when he gets off and meet him after work. If this is 1am in the morning, then I would put in the effort. Is fixing this relationship worth a crappy nights sleep? Someone needs to put in the effort and even though you say you always do it, it still needs to be done if you want to fix it or find out what is going on. But....make sure you know what questions you need answered and make sure you know what you will accept and won't accept before you talk to him. There is no harm in making the effort, but you can't do this by yourself
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