Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted August 22, 2016 Posted August 22, 2016 I think it is time for you to move on just as much as he clearly has. As someone else has mentioned, if I have been regularly rejected over and over again with someone that I am most definitely into, you lose hope and interest. If they suddenly come around again, there is a smug smirk on my face, but nothing more than that. There was a window of opportunity before that you or he could have climbed yourselves into, but you shut the window in his face. You can't expect him to drop everything to come jumping back; he's probably confused by your actions. Call it pride, but once someone has rejected me, I feel the shame and hurt from it. I'm a catch; I wouldn't call myself a 9/10 as you boldly define yourself as being, but I wouldn't call myself chop liver either. Either apologise profusely or move on. It appears he already has or has already decided to or at least thinking about it.
preraph Posted August 22, 2016 Posted August 22, 2016 Well, I mean, he just recently expressed interest in her, so it's not that he's not interested or too proud. That leaves fear. And I think most people have a pretty good idea of their number. She's not telling him "I'm a 9." She's telling Loveshack so we have something to go on. And I bet he is out of her league, so not sure why she's dabbling, but it's every guy's dream, right?
Mikau Posted August 22, 2016 Posted August 22, 2016 Flirting doesn't always have to indicate interest Preraph. I flirt with plenty of colleagues I have 0 interest in, just to get a bit of practice. 2
biker23 Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 I live in LA now and this situation has happened to me MULTIPLE times out here (man expresses interest, then once I express it back, they start avoiding me like the plague. It's bizarre!! Note though: it only happens with men in their 20's/30's usually, and the ones who it doesn't happen with are usually super cocky.) What is up with all these insecure men nowadays? Is it performance anxiety and he's just waiting until he feels ready to sleep with me that he'll respond? Any advice appreciated... Interesting...I was in LA for a week last month and got on Bumble. Im from Atlanta. I got so many messages and so many comments of woman looking for non LA guys. IN this case, If you truly like him, pursue and eat some humble pie. I think he has a good strategy as he has you intrigued.
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 Flirting doesn't always have to indicate interest Preraph. I flirt with plenty of colleagues I have 0 interest in, just to get a bit of practice. Why flirt for practice's sake? That would hurt and send mixed messages to the people you're flirting with. They might develop an interest in you and then suddenly you back out. You cause them confusion and hurt. What's the point of that? To give yourself a raised ego? To test whether or not you still have it? That's quite selfish in my personal opinion Explain this to me. If a guy did that to me, flirted with me for the attention, I would delete, cancel, retreat, cancel, goodbye! End all conversation and flirting.
preraph Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 Flirting doesn't always have to indicate interest Preraph. I flirt with plenty of colleagues I have 0 interest in, just to get a bit of practice. Yes, true, and sometimes if you're just in a good mood and happy to everyone, it seems flirty to some people.
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