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TOMW666

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I began paying a stripper to see me at home about 6 months ago. As far as I know this was the first time she has ever done this. I met her at a strip club about a year ago and she gave me here phone number with the intent to date me. Two weeks later she met another guy at same club... gave him her number and they actually started dating. We kept in contact (She continued to dance and only after about 6 months later did I suggest I pay her to see me at home). I know this all rather sorted. Anyway the guy she has been dating is verbally abusive to her and she has confided in me about this. Anyway in the last 2 weeks I guess I have wanted to pay to see her more than what she has wanted to see me. I have spent about $10,000 to see the girl. She has now blocked my phone / text ... After saying she was going to move out from the guy's house I think she now has let him back into her heart. I never really intended this to happen like this. I am just depressed and can't stop thinking about the girl. It has been 5 days since we spoke / texted. Trying hard to get over.

Bialy Established Member

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This is just a business transaction. She has a right to decline your business. Don't stalk her.

 

There's no reason to be emotionally invested at all.

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Blanco Established Member

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So guys who think the strippers are actually into them isn't just some made up thing? Wild.

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TOMW666 Member

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Hi,

 

Yes ... It appears that I am an idiot. Did not mean to get to this place. Does not change the fact that real emotions are at work. I just need to move on ... just does not feel good at the moment.

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Yes, you need to face the reality that this is not a breakup. She was never your girlfriend. She was never your friend.

 

She was providing a business service. Just because this transaction occurred in your home doesn't make her your girlfriend. She's not obligated to take anymore of your business and hard earned cash. You were just a customer.

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Yes,

 

And a sucker at the same time. I just need to stick her in the memory bank as a really hot girl ... who I had sex with. Not anymore ... just a memory. May take a week , a month , or 6 months. Just need to forget.

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She probably used the abuse story to milk more money out of you. They always have a sob story to get you to feel sorry for them and throw more money at them. Be glad she's moved on.

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Hi,

 

Yes ... You could be correct. I guess I have just learned a hard lesson. When that little voice tells you something is all messed up ... one needs to listen.

 

Oh well ... last text I sent said I had no regrets and that I was glad that I was able to provide the financial and emotional support she needed and I told her to take care.

 

Pretty stupid .. uhh

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Hi,

 

Yes ... It appears that I am an idiot. Did not mean to get to this place. Does not change the fact that real emotions are at work. I just need to move on ... just does not feel good at the moment.

 

YOU essentially paid to have a gf, only she wasn't your gf, just a stripper who got paid to be nice to you and have sex with you.

 

YOU allowed yourself to imagine it was more and now reality has hit.

You will survive though.

Dust yourself down and promise yourself you will never get emotionally involved with any more sex workers.

They just do a job.

Your mistake was after you asked to date her (and she went off with someone else), you then paid for her to attend to you at home, that made it all the more personal and intimate.

By doing that you mixed up the dating and the prostitution in your head and you fell for her.

Maybe you just assumed she would fall for you as well, but that was unlikely in the circumstances.

Grieve, heal and move on.

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Hi,

 

It appears that I did get confused along the way. It is only been 5 days since I talked and texted her. JUST NEED TO HEAL. I keep telling myself. I signed up for Match.com right after I realized it was all blowing up. Not much luck there. Seems I don't have enough catchy things to say ..

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Hi,

 

I deluded myself into thinking it was normal. Way abnormal. Better to do this than try and get back together ... If I pass a razor wire up one nostril and and down the other , while poking my eyes out with needles ... it will only hurt marginally less that talking / texting her.

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$10k in six months'ish? She better be DAMN hot! Jesus! That's a "decent" used boat,depending on your budget.

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Hi,

 

I deluded myself into thinking it was normal. Way abnormal. Better to do this than try and get back together ... If I pass a razor wire up one nostril and and down the other , while poking my eyes out with needles ... it will only hurt marginally less that talking / texting her.

How about you just chill for a while?
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Okay ... I will chill. Just need to got through the stages of grief:

 

denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

 

I am between 2 and 3 now. Was at 2 about 4 hours ago.

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Hi,

 

Very pretty girl. And yes crazy. I think when they get too pretty. It makes them a little psycho.

NopeNah Established Member

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Okay ... I will chill. Just need to got through the stages of grief:

 

denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

 

I am between 2 and 3 now. Was at 2 about 4 hours ago.

Look,Bro.. She's a stripper!! They get paid to pretend to "like" you..This one took it to another level(Prostitution) and you bit...Don't be captn save a hoe here.

 

 

I still can't get over the $10K, Honestly!!! WTF.. Were you thinking?

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TOMW666 Member

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Hi,

 

I have "extra" money now. In a year I will have paid myself back. I paid off my mortgage. I have $ 1000 extra a month. You live and learn ... very hot girl. Everything has:

 

1) A beginning

2) A Middle

3) A End

 

No big ...

NopeNah Established Member

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Hi,

 

I have "extra" money now. In a year I will have paid myself back. I paid off my mortgage. I have $ 1000 extra a month. You live and learn ... very hot girl. Everything has:

 

1) A beginning

2) A Middle

3) A End

 

No big ...

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I work for myself...There's way more things out there for $10k that actually have ROI...Just saying. :cool:

ChickiePops Established Member

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You made a mistake and you fell for someone who was essentially an employee. Her job was to attract you and she was obviously good at what she did.

 

I'm sorry you're hurting but what about trying to date for real?

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So get this ... out of nowhere .. she unblocks me... after being blocked for 2-3 days. She tells me two things ... I was stressing her out and that the guy she is living with caused her to block me. By the way .. helping her move today from the guy's place. I never in a billion years expected this to work out this way. She was kind of mean to me at first. I told her she was treating me bad ... and she apologized.

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LD1990 Established Member

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You're a meal ticket to this girl. Come on, you're helping her move, seriously? She's treating you like a chump, and who can blame her? The other guy probably got sick of paying for ***** so she's jumping back to ol' reliable.

 

Don't catch feelings for strippers and prostitutes is pretty much the number one rule in life for a reason.

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Will she continue to spend time with you if you don't pay her to? Or give her things, or pay her bills?

 

Do you care if she cares about at all? Or do you not mind being used for your money?

 

If it hurt to be blocked bow - how do you think it will feel later?

 

Are you okay with being in love with a sex worker? Do you mind sharing her with other men?

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Blanco Established Member

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Dude, send me half of what you paid her and I'll come dance for you.

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Dude! She's a stripper. WTF?

 

With all the knowledge and information available at our fingertips today, It scares me that we are raising a generation of males (I intentionally did not use the word men) that are so naïve, desperate and gullible for female attention and acceptance that this is a thing.

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So get this ... out of nowhere .. she unblocks me... after being blocked for 2-3 days. She tells me two things ... I was stressing her out and that the guy she is living with caused her to block me. By the way .. helping her move today from the guy's place. I never in a billion years expected this to work out this way. She was kind of mean to me at first. I told her she was treating me bad ... and she apologized.

 

She needed help moving, and she needs money. You are her personal slave/ATM.

 

Stop letting her vagina hypnotize you. She has zero feelings for you. Don't be stupid.

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