MsBlink Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 It's been a while, ladies and gents...*clears throat* I'm still hanging on to my LDR (2 years next month) and we're still doing well, but now we're having some location issues. We're discussing marriage now (which is fun, but I'm not gonna jump the gun and say we're getting married) and the overall state of our relationship. He wants me to move to Ohio to be closer to him--and eventually, I want to as well--but it probably won't happen for another two years. In the meantime, I'd love to move to Chicago. This has been a dream of mine for as long as I can remember, to live in Chicago for a while, and I don't want to give it up for a guy. I don't want to miss out on the opportunity. Yet, and still, if I'm gonna move, and we both know I want to settle in Ohio, why skip over my ultimate locale to chase Chicago? I mean, I don't even wanna live in Chicago more than a year...I love the city, and I live in Detroit now, but I can't take the pace 24/7. I want to talk to him about possibly moving with me to Chicago two summers from now, just so we won't have a 5 hour gap between us, but he's a country boy at heart. How do you ask someone to take a chance on their comfort zone? Gosh, I feel like crud getting ready to tell him I want to hold of on Ohio until I get my Chicago experience, but I can already hear the disappointment in his voice! Any and all suggestions/comments/questions are great... ~MsBlink
Cwazydude Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Saying please is always appreciated. If that doesn't work say "Pretty Please" Then add "With sugar on top".
lvgrl Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 Well, I was in a LDR, and then the topic of moving came up, he was in IL and I was in Arkansas, it was over 10 hours away and I knew that if something was going to come out of this, then I needed to do something to make that happen. Yes you guys have been together for 2 years, but can you really say that 2 years from now you guys will be together? I knew that things wouldnt progress the way that I wanted them to if we lived 800 miles apart, so I decided to take the move, and it was the best thing that I ever could have done. Sometimes you just gotta risk it all and hope for happiness.. Tell him how you feel, tell him that you want to see your relationship go somewhere and give you two a fair shot at this love thing. Its a wonderful thing if you can find it or it comes to you..I think everyone should have a chance to love, or be loved.
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