Ronanana Posted August 21, 2016 Posted August 21, 2016 (edited) Here is this guy, he was all over me interested! After our first date he barely talked to me, two days later when i initating the contact, asking how hes doing he said he is so bussy with a new home and that he will talk to me later. The first thing that bothered me was that he didnt ask me how am i doing, uhu.. So i deleted his number that night and the bext day when i put him back in my phone i didnt saw his status or picture so i taught he deleted me back. So i deleted him aigain. But i see now by checking his picture and status so he add me again One day later i send him a email and told him we talked nice calling and whatsap So its normal te send him a email because i lost his number after an update.. I told him also i stop with dating if he didnt like me or the date he could told me that. So he answered thats not true he is verry bussy this and that, the distance is about 1 our and he would like to see me after work and that was an issue. He wishes me the best and he will also stop dating now My regret is that i make him think i didnt want to see him annymore. Now i think every day about him Sorry people im dutch! Edited August 21, 2016 by Ronanana
smudge21 Posted August 21, 2016 Posted August 21, 2016 There's two people involved here, and if you're the one making all the effort in the early stages and you're starting to question things already, then you need to think is it really worth it. To me, it sounds like he lost interest/changed his mind or whatever. No matter how busy someone is, if they're interested and want someone in their life, they will make the effort to keep them in it. Fact. We're all busy, but never that busy to not text or call someone. I posted before about how during times of war, soldiers would write to their loved ones - not emails or texts, but full sized hand written letters. How anyone can say they are more busy than a soldier fighting a war is beyond me. No, the only reason people don't stay in touch is because they chose not to. Let this one go and don't feel bad about it. Focus your time finding someone who treats and respects you as equally as you do them.
preraph Posted August 21, 2016 Posted August 21, 2016 Sometimes when someone says they're too busy, they need to get off the phone right now because they're with a client or they are in the middle of cooking or they are at the doctor getting a proctology exam. This guy is in the middle of a new home. Have you ever moved before? Can you imagine just stopping and chatting it up with friends when you have a truckload of personal belongings out on the street in a truck that any thug could come up and steal while you're distracted? Can you imagine he might be carrying a box and not be able to text but wanted to just answer and let you know what he was in the middle of? Or having paint all over you and not wanting to get it on your phone? Haven't you ever had something more important to do than chat about nothing to someone? 2
bachdude Posted August 21, 2016 Posted August 21, 2016 OP, really?? First I think just two days after a first date isn't much time at all to make contact. And when you deleted him that night, if he noticed, I can see how that could be a real turn off. I mean, if there is already drama after one date, what does that tell him? And I agree with the other poster, if he had just moved in to a new house, it can be overwhelming. People are not always available nor can the necessarily drop everything just because you text. I suggest next time you just take deep breaths, relax, enjoy the process, and try to see things from other people's perspectives. 2
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