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HumanMachine Established Member

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Had an awesome weekend away with a fwb, on our way home she showed me her facebook (-.-) post with various pics of us together kissing etc. "Fantastic weekend away with X, so many memories" blah d blah

 

Now normally I wouldn't mind but this girl isn't just my fwb - she has plenty of other dudes she has a similar relationship with (safety first)

 

Now am i wrong in thinking that this is incredibly embarrassing for myself? I'd be having a chuckle if I was one of the other guys

smackie9 Established Member

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Tell her to can it, because you don't like being looked at as some chump she is bangin.

JDPT Established Member

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she's just showing you off man. Both men and women do that.

Gr8fuln2020 Established Member

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So, you're one of other FWB? You're a trophy for her and frankly, this whole thing is disturbing. You're okay that she's had/ving sex with other guys? Protection? Does that include you not going down on her?

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Grapesofwrath Established Member

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Did you pose for the pictures? If you did, then in future you may want to consider what could be done wityh photos like that. We live in a social media world.

 

Very little is private, unless we make sure it's private.

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Gloria25 Established Member

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We live in a time where people add as "friends" on Fakebook people who, IMO, are in majority mere "acquaintences". Wonder how many of their 200 + "friends" last picked up a phone to just ask how they're doing, visited them, been for them in a time of need/loss/illness (besides "likes" and virtual comments on their Fakebook page)?

 

They also instantly (they literally walk around with their celphones logged into Fakebook ready to upload a picture taken in seconds) upload pics as events happen.

 

Me? I don't need an audience. I don't need "friends" that bad. And, IMO, adding as "friend" with full access and/or pics of someone that I don't intend to marry is just a can of worms/headaches.

 

So, the OPs FWB isn't saying that they are an official "item", she isn't showing off her trophy. She's just in the current sea of idiots who need an audience via Fakebook and who don't value a thing - in other words, the day she marries, guaranteed she'll demand to wear a white dress when there was a time "tradition" reserved that privilege for a virgin.

Gloria25 Established Member

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So, unless you wanna stop getting the sex and whatever else you want out of the thing with her, maybe wait till you two are over to ask her to take down the pics. If she refuses then report her to Fakebook.

 

Unfortunately she'll learn a painful lesson in not being so casual with all the poop she puts online.

 

Next time, especially in the day/age we live in with social media. If you catch someone taking pics of you and them smooching and they're not your official person, try to deter them by saying that you don't like taking pics cuz you're not photogenic or something.

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I agree with Gloria25. Look, do you really know her that well? The other guys? Is she something else? Now that you're pics are up and she's advertising her connection with you, have you thought about the potential, future damage this could do to you? Employment? Future serious gf? Family? Friends?

 

It should bother you that you're sharing her body with other guys and she's posting her exploits online....serious lax of common sense on her part (unless intentional).

 

I think it is absolutely crazy for people to put up pics, online, on social media of people they are dating. I can see if it were a SERIOUS gf or fiancé or family, but a short term gf??? SO careless...

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Amelie1980 Established Member

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If she is only a FWB, why are you on weekends away and posing for photos?

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"A weekend away" doesn't sound very FWB to me. I think she has reason to think you are dating because FWB doesn't do all that. And FWB takes it for granted both parties may be dating or hooking up with other people and doesn't care.

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I would just straight out say to her "Don't post pictures of me on Facebook".

 

Be prepared for her to make a stink (some people can't take no). She will ask why and you will have to answer. Be honest.

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Amelie1980 Established Member

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I agree with Gloria25. Look, do you really know her that well? The other guys? Is she something else? Now that you're pics are up and she's advertising her connection with you, have you thought about the potential, future damage this could do to you? Employment? Future serious gf? Family? Friends?

 

It should bother you that you're sharing her body with other guys and she's posting her exploits online....serious lax of common sense on her part (unless intentional).

 

I think it is absolutely crazy for people to put up pics, online, on social media of people they are dating. I can see if it were a SERIOUS gf or fiancé or family, but a short term gf??? SO careless...

 

I am trying to imagine a job that would have any problem with a grown adult having a casual relationship with another grown adult. What on earth could be the harm?

 

I can imagine the manager calling me in for a meeting at work and saying: Amelie you had a casual relationship with this guy. Explain yourself!!! I'd say to them: Yeah. And. So. What. My private life is none of your concern. And I'd be right.

 

What is wrong with sharing photos of a short term relationship. Some relationships (non FWB) dont last long, less than 6 months. People take photos you know.

 

The OP consented to the photos being taken. He consented to a weekend away. I am struggling to see why you would do that with someone you know is not your GF and is never going to be but I cant imagine any problems coming of it. People have causal sex all the time.

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Popsicle Established Member

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Does she post pics of her other FWB's on Facebook?

Gr8fuln2020 Established Member

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I am trying to imagine a job that would have any problem with a grown adult having a casual relationship with another grown adult. What on earth could be the harm?

 

I can imagine the manager calling me in for a meeting at work and saying: Amelie you had a casual relationship with this guy. Explain yourself!!! I'd say to them: Yeah. And. So. What. My private life is none of your concern. And I'd be right.

 

What is wrong with sharing photos of a short term relationship. Some relationships (non FWB) dont last long, less than 6 months. People take photos you know.

 

The OP consented to the photos being taken. He consented to a weekend away. I am struggling to see why you would do that with someone you know is not your GF and is never going to be but I cant imagine any problems coming of it. People have causal sex all the time.

 

The problem with this is that these pics are being put up w/o the OP's permission and he is uncomfortable with it. I would also be uncomfortable that a woman who is known to be sleeping with multiple men is advertising her latest exploit.

 

BTW, today, in this contemporary world, ANYTHING you put up online is fair game to potential employers (current employers). This is well known and one is or should be warned about what is put up.

 

As per putting up pics of your current gf, why when there has been no significant commitment made? Why let the cyber-world (all your friends) know what is going on...later lose interest and then have to deal with the uncomfortable position having to explain why the relationship didn't work out or why you NOW have a new gf/bf? Why the need to rotate your private (intimate) life online?

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Amelie1980 Established Member

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The problem with this is that these pics are being put up w/o the OP's permission and he is uncomfortable with it. I would also be uncomfortable that a woman who is known to be sleeping with multiple men is advertising her latest exploit.

 

BTW, today, in this contemporary world, ANYTHING you put up online is fair game to potential employers (current employers). This is well known and one is or should be warned about what is put up.

 

As per putting up pics of your current gf, why when there has been no significant commitment made? Why let the cyber-world (all your friends) know what is going on...later lose interest and then have to deal with the uncomfortable position having to explain why the relationship didn't work out or why you NOW have a new gf/bf? Why the need to rotate your private (intimate) life online?

 

But what harm are photos of the op on a weekend kissing a girl.

 

if she was making video of them having sex, I'd be worried.

 

i cant see any harm.

 

i've never put photos of boyfriends on my facebook. But I cant see a problem with others doing it. to each their own.

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HumanMachine Established Member

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I don't use social media so there were no links to me, only my name. I still feel very uncomfortable about it.

 

She also posted pictures of us on snapchat and instagram..

 

She has shown me her social media - no pics of any of the other guys (i know of one other solid fwb of hers and mentions of other guys)

 

She has stated that we are strictly fwb before, to which I happily agreed to.

 

Odd

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Amelie1980 Established Member

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I don't use social media so there were no links to me, only my name. I still feel very uncomfortable about it.

 

She also posted pictures of us on snapchat and instagram..

 

She has shown me her social media - no pics of any of the other guys (i know of one other solid fwb of hers and mentions of other guys)

 

She has stated that we are strictly fwb before, to which I happily agreed to.

 

Odd

 

Ask her to take them down. Say that you are FWB and you are not comfortable with her sharing pictures.

 

In future dont let her take any.

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HumanMachine Established Member

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In answer to why we went away as fwb..

 

Good question, don't know.. Guess we're just good fwb

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She has stated that we are strictly fwb before, to which I happily agreed to.

 

I guess with the weekend away you have upped your status in her eyes, and she may be starting to consider you bf material.

What she said before about you two being fwbs may be null and void if you are treating her like a gf by taking her on week ends away. How certain are you that she now has other men she sees? She may have ditched them because of you.

 

Of course on FB, some post statuses to say something to other people, so this blatant show of her great week end away may be designed to make someone else jealous or upset them.

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HumanMachine Established Member

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I guess with the weekend away you have upped your status in her eyes, and she may be starting to consider you bf material.

What she said before about you two being fwbs may be null and void if you are treating her like a gf by taking her on week ends away. How certain are you that she now has other men she sees? She may have ditched them because of you.

 

Of course on FB, some post statuses to say something to other people, so this blatant show of her great week end away may be designed to make someone else jealous or upset them.

 

Absolute no chance of a relationship - she was organising to meet the other fwb the day we got back from our weekend (and is with him as I type this), just hours after her facebook post.

 

Your second point seems most likely - god know's the reasoning behind her actions.

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Absolute no chance of a relationship - she was organising to meet the other fwb the day we got back from our weekend (and is with him as I type this), just hours after her facebook post.

 

Your second point seems most likely - god know's the reasoning behind her actions.

 

Well, then you need to have an adult conversation with her and ask her to take the pictures down. Since she has a string of FWBs, then I'm sure she won't cry over it.

 

But I'm starting to lean with others here that your vacay weekend makes her think that you and her are an item - hence, her liberty in posting those pics.

 

But seriously, is she into the Poly lifestyle or something? Cuz you say you're just a FWB, but she's telling the world about your weekend together as "memorable" - yet, she posts about every Tom, Dick, Harry, John, and Smith she's with as if this was some love cult or something :confused:

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HumanMachine Established Member

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Well, then you need to have an adult conversation with her and ask her to take the pictures down. Since she has a string of FWBs, then I'm sure she won't cry over it.

 

But I'm starting to lean with others here that your vacay weekend makes her think that you and her are an item - hence, her liberty in posting those pics.

 

But seriously, is she into the Poly lifestyle or something? Cuz you say you're just a FWB, but she's telling the world about your weekend together as "memorable" - yet, she posts about every Tom, Dick, Harry, John, and Smith she's with as if this was some love cult or something :confused:

 

She's only posted about me - the other dude (& others) do not appear on her social media.

 

She told me that she was in love with me but wasn't ready for a relationship. (She told me that - I didn't ask plus I think a relationship with her would be a very bad idea).

 

I'll ask her to remove the post.

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It sounds like she has a problem/disregard for boundaries. She doesn't know or care what a FWB is. She takes your picture and posts it without your permission. She has several male partners. This girl is likely to continue disregarding boundaries. You may want to rethink your relationship with her.

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Reading between the lines, it sounds like you like her and would actually want a relationship but she is keeping it FWB. Pics don't bother you in themselves, you are hoping they are proof that she wants something more and likes you more than other dudes she is banging.

 

This will not end well for you.

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Absolute no chance of a relationship - she was organising to meet the other fwb the day we got back from our weekend (and is with him as I type this), just hours after her facebook post.

She sounds like the town pump - everyone gets a turn. :sick:

 

Well, maybe she was posting pictures of your weekend on Facebook to get all her other 'partners' to step up their game a bit and start taking her places other than their bedrooms.

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