I don't understand!

[DoraX]

I attended a two week sleep away program recently, and I met this guy. Initially I thought he was funny, and cool or whatever, but then I started to actually develop feelings. We only started talking during the second week, and he was definitely reciprocating my feelings, in that he found every excuse to touch me, join me if I was sitting somewhere, and he even invited me to watch a movie with him, in his room, by ourselves. Then he asked me again the next night. The movies were scary (obviously, what better excuse is there to hold someone) and we were basically cuddling. (I did not and have not kissed him). On the last night of the program we were watching a movie, joking together, and he even held my hand. At this point, I knew I wanted to pursue something with him.

 

I went home early the next day. He snapchat me, (I did not have his cell phone number) asking why I left without saying goodbye. So I asked for his number, and for nearly three whole days we were texting. If it fell off, he would text me first. While we were texting, he complimented me multiple times, asked me out, and even asked to have a photoshoot with me (He's a photographer).

 

Suddenly he stopped communication with me. That's not a big deal, people have their own lives. But it became days without contact, even though he was still very active on social media. Then occasionally he would text me suddenly, asking a question, but would never respond to my answers. I may be overreacting, but I've heard of men becoming distant, not completely cutting off.

 

We're not dating, and I have no jurisdiction over what he does with his life, but I want to understand this, so that I'm not unnecessarily worried over nothing.

 

P.S. If you think it's about time I ask him what his intentions are, how should I go about doing it?

Edited August 20, 2016 by DoraX

[preraph]

I would be very leery of him wanting to have a photoshoot with you. That sounds very fishy to me. He might be looking for someone to do porn and realized you're not going to do that and lost interest. Or he might be fine but also be dating and seeing other women so he's not focused on you.

[DoraX]

I feel like I should point out that he's an urban photographer, and there was nothing creepy about him asking for a photoshoot. I've seen his work and he had taken plenty of pictures during the program!

[JDPT]

Meeting someone new is exactly it, it's something new. It's intriguing, exciting, interesting, you want that other person constantly, but eventually that ends up fading away away and left with a more level head in an effort to rationalize and see if you actually want to invest in this other person. i wouldn't take it personal it's just things kinda taking their course. Have a conversation about it in due time if it bothers you enough.