marxman2015 Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 This could be a bit long, so please bear with me Summary: Had 3 dates with this girl, who showed many positive signs, and is always direct and available whenever I ask her out, until when I ask her the fourth time for a hiking date (which takes up from noon to night), She agreed but said that she couldn't make it the day I suggested and would check for another day for me. She still haven't get back to me after a few days. She works full time on weekdays and study at university for the weekend from morning to evening, so she really has a very tight schedule. Is she genuinely interested? Details: Met this girl online, we are both in our early twenties. We are from very conservative culture where people do not have sex before getting into a relationship/marriage, and that holding hands or kissing are for relationships as well. We went out for three dates, each time I ask her out through text, she said yes and agreed to a definite time and place. She showed more and more interest throughout the dates. -She always arrive earlier than our meeting time. -She always stands really close to me from date 1 to date 3, our arms are always bumping into each other's, even if I put space, she would close the distance -she laughs at things I say even if they are not funny at all -She always make reference to future activities together -Each time I pay for the meal, she would suggest she pay for the next one (and she did) -She touches me, tap on my arm, her hand touching my hand "accidentally" while we are walking - When we sit side by side, her face was really close to mine while we are talking -She opens up easily to personal questions I ask, and she ask me personal questions as well -She tries to extend the date longer In between the dates, she initiate to text me occasionally, saying things like she think of me, or compliments me. On our third date, she told me she has lost interest in talking to any other guys on the dating app as they are boring. After the third date, she initiate texting after we part ways. The next day I ask her out for a hiking date, which would take up from afternoon to night time. She replied sure, but then she say she cannot make it for the day I suggested and ask can we do it another day which she will have to check and get back to me. I agreed. She still hasn't get back to me after a few days. I know that she is only going to have one potentially free whole day for next month or so, and that is the day I asked for. Since she is working full time from monday to friday, and studying part-time in university for sat and sun (from morning to evening), I believe she is genuinely busy. Does it seem like she is still interested? or is that a gentle blow off?
BaileyB Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 She sounds very interested, but very busy. I would contact her again to keep the communication going. Just make it clear that you'd like to see her again when she has time. 3
SevenCity Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 Yea she is showing all the signs of interest. The problem is she doesn't have time. The question is, will she have enough time for a RL? And more important, can you deal with her time limitations if you do get into a RL with her?
preraph Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 I bet she's just struggling to get everything done and wishes she had time for a relationship but doesn't. But maybe her schedule will get better with a few months' time if you are patient. 1
thecrucible Posted August 21, 2016 Posted August 21, 2016 The question is, will she have enough time for a RL? And more important, can you deal with her time limitations if you do get into a RL with her? But this is something worth discussing with her - at least in a neutral way to suss out how much she is willing to commit. Personally I am a busy woman but honestly I keep busy partly to stave off loneliness. If I did meet a man, I wouldn't drop my life but I'd probably cut down a lot of it.
Mystique01 Posted August 21, 2016 Posted August 21, 2016 Imo she sounds interested but very busy. If I wasn't into a guy I don't think I could stomach 2 days, let alone 3 and be giving off body language cues that this girl is giving off. I say give her the benefit of the doubt. Now, if she blows you off twice for another date, or stops returning your texts phone calls, THEN I'd start to get concerned. But right now it just seems like she's genuinely busy.
Author marxman2015 Posted August 29, 2016 Author Posted August 29, 2016 Thanks for all the replies!!! UPDATE: We Had the Hiking Date, but then this time I am not sure about her interest again.... After 1 week or so, she has reached out to me twice on texting, I then ask her have she sorted out which day she was free. She replied sunday afternoon. So we went hiking and lunch that day! She was 10mins late that day, she apologised and paid for lunch. We then went hiking, and had a walk at the beach and took the bus together. Interests she showed: - She bought me gifts (some snacks she bought from her trip) - She initiates more touching (hitting my shoulder, punching my arm) - While we are examining our palm print, she touches my hand - She sniffed my chest, I asked her did you just sniffed my sweat? she laughed and said yes The date lasted for 5 hours. I ask her out again the next day, for XXX movie on sat, she said she had seen it already with her friends. I then suggest YYY movie, she then said actually her school starts this weekend from 9am to 6pm Sun and Sat, and she think she cant make it this week. I said maybe another time. She then said Sorry will let me know when she has time. What do you guys think?
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