gypsi Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 Hi everyone thanks for reading this and thanks in advance for any advice I got out of a serious relationship and decided to have a rebound relationship with s girl I met on an app (I am a gay woman 29) she is a closeted girl 24. We both met up and fell madly in inlove. She was still in the closet and decided to come out to her parents once she did the dynamics changed she broke up with me and stated "I realized I am truly gay and I want to take this journey by myself" This from a girl who pledged her undying love to me even said she wants us to get engaged to now not wanting me as a part of her journey anymore. I am heartbroken and devastated I truly love her so much. Is there any chance I can win her back or get her back? Or should I just move on with my life. I really loved this girl and she really loved me I don't understand how she can just cut my out of her life in the blink of an eyes saying she wants this journey alone. Please any advice would help as I love her so much and my heart is beyond broken.
JewelD Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 How long were you together? You said she was a rebound, so she served her purpose. I imagine you wanted to be the one to do the dumping when the time came? She probably said all of those things because you were there while she was closeted. Now that she's out, she can live her life differently and she's got options. Perhaps she wants to see what else is out there. The first woman I was with was also closeted and I was semi-closeted. We only dated for a few months but we were getting very serious and talking about moving in together and all this crap. I became more open with my sexuality and eventually ended it with her but I look back and I'm like, 'wtf was i thinking? we barely knew each other". I think your ex possibly had that honeymoon phase going on because she was so excited just to be able to express her sexuality with a partner. I would move on and let her do her thing. She might come back to you, she might not, but right now, she wants her space. I tried to be friends with my ex gf and she kept pressuring me about whether or not I'd ever get back with her and it turned me off even more so I cut her off completely.
preraph Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 Well, coming out is a journey. Now she's out, she wants to be totally free and explore. So try to part in a nice way and be understanding but move on and maybe she'll circle back around somewhere down the road, but she is young, so she's probably got a few years of exploration to do. Good luck.
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