Chong1987 Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months. We met at our job, she was married at the time. But shortly after she ended her marraige. I'm sorry for the lack of details, but this is difficult to type on my phone. I have a really good friend who is married, so I introduced my girl to his wife and they hit it off pretty good. My lady told me she will occasionally get a Tramadol pill from her friend for back pain, she was rear ended last year and is sensitive to the slightest touch in some parts of her back. I hate pills, I told her this. I have seen family and friends waste away on them. She told me if she got a prescription for them she would let me hold them to make sure she's not abusing them. Then later changed her mind lol I was under the assumption she just uses them for pain. And I really know she doesn't have too much time to take them often. My friends wife told my good friend that she has been picking them up every time we fight, and binging on McDonald's(which she says she eats rarely) after a fight too. She went to her driveway grabbed a pill came out to car and said "don't tell Tom". Now I told my lady I am OK with her taking one once in a while but please don't hide it from me. I have not confronted her yet as I just found out, I will.. it's not if.. it's when. I'm just not sure how to go about doing it, I'm really disappointed and not sure if I can trust her with other things being she lied about something small that I previously said I was OK with. This coupled with her lashing out type behavior. If you know what I mean, going out and doing stuff that she knows I don't approve of after a fight. I have been reading about Tramadol, and learned it's a synthetic opioid. Other than that I don't know much about it. I got some marijuana for friends one time and showed her. Did not try to hide it, I am a former user and would honestly tell her if I ever used. She said this was a deal breaker. I never attempted to hide it, or anything else. Do small lies usually mean or lead to bigger lies? How would you feel or react? I also don't have much respect for her friend anymore after learning she is giving her the Tramadol. She constantly cheats on her husband and my lady and her were in a threesome a long time ago. Not even sure how I feel about them hanging out now. If you read this thank you for your time
PinkPampies Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 she is an addict. Unless you're willing to dedicate your life to dealing with an addict, RUN AWAY! I can't even begin to detail all that will happen in the coming months and years. Opiod addiction is the most dangerous there is. Cut your losses now. It will not get better only worse.
Author Chong1987 Posted August 20, 2016 Author Posted August 20, 2016 I'm wanting to know how I should bring this up. I was thinking of just asking her "what are you hiding from me?" .. or just waiting a few days until she talks about one or the other and then bring it up.
LD1990 Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 Do small lies usually mean or lead to bigger lies? Yes. How would you feel or react? I also don't have much respect for her friend anymore after learning she is giving her the Tramadol. She constantly cheats on her husband and my lady and her were in a threesome a long time ago. Not even sure how I feel about them hanging out now. If you read this thank you for your time This relationship is bad news. She does stuff she knows you wouldn't approve of after a fight - how long until you two get into a fight and she sleeps with the first guy she meets at a bar? She's hanging out with a woman that constantly cheats on her husband. The people you hang out with the most have a significant effect on you. When your significant other frequently hangs out with someone who cheats or sleeps around, that's not good. It'd be better to just end things and quit worrying about how to bring up her issues.
preraph Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 The big concern is she is taking opiods, which are very addictive. Prescriptions opiates are the biggest addiction problem in the US right now so it's a serious problem. Do you know where she gets them? Does she get them from her doctor? If so, see if you can find his name and he will not tell you anything because of confidentiality, but you can leave a message and say "My friend ____ (whole name) is abusing Tramadol. Please do something." If she's getting them on the street, you probably can't stop her. If it's regular use, you probably won't want to stay.
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