Jammer25 Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 So my birthday is today, and my GF made me a cake and wrote me an awesome letter. It was a wonderful experience as I took the day off for myself so I could hang out with her during the day. We went to her cousin's wedding rehearsal dinner tonight, after a road trip up north. I felt kinda lonely and slightly neglected during the dinner and the ceremony rehearsal. I mean, I know it's her family and she wants to spend time with them, but to an extent today is "my day" too. I just don't know if I should feel bad about thinking more selfishly. Like I said, she took the time to bake me a themed cake and spend time with me during the day. And I wasn't about to not let her spend time with her family at the rehearsal dinner. I'm super appreciative of what my GF did for me, but there's a part of me that feels like today wasn't really "my day" as if it was normal. It just kinda made me feel like an afterthought tonight. Sorry, this was more venting than anything. I just feel a bit like it isn't even a big day for me.
joseb Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 So my birthday is today, and my GF made me a cake and wrote me an awesome letter. It was a wonderful experience as I took the day off for myself so I could hang out with her during the day. We went to her cousin's wedding rehearsal dinner tonight, after a road trip up north. I felt kinda lonely and slightly neglected during the dinner and the ceremony rehearsal. I mean, I know it's her family and she wants to spend time with them, but to an extent today is "my day" too. I just don't know if I should feel bad about thinking more selfishly. Like I said, she took the time to bake me a themed cake and spend time with me during the day. And I wasn't about to not let her spend time with her family at the rehearsal dinner. I'm super appreciative of what my GF did for me, but there's a part of me that feels like today wasn't really "my day" as if it was normal. It just kinda made me feel like an afterthought tonight. Sorry, this was more venting than anything. I just feel a bit like it isn't even a big day for me. You are 25 years old. It's time to grow up. The kind of "my special day" thinking is for kids. Not adults. And anyway, she did more than enough for you with a cake. 7
TunaCat Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 How old are you. Personally, I think you're making too big of a deal about this. Once you're in your twenties, you don't get a full day devoted to you and you alone just because of a birthday. I think your girlfriend did the right thing by celebrating this morning with a cake & letter. I'm sure you knew about the cousin's wedding rehearsal dinner, so she made you feel special in the morning before you had to go to the family thing. I'm not going to tell you that you shouldn't feel neglected, but the whole day wasn't about you and she made you feel special in the morning & she spent a ton of time with you before the dinner. 2
basil67 Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 I agree with the others: You're too old to have a day devoted entirely to yourself. Be grateful that your girlfriend made the lunch all about you. 2
lolablue17 Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 Yes, I think you think like a child. Childs are selfish and can't think about anything but themselves. You think like - "she neglected you" Vs "she made you a cake". Come on... THose thoughts will ruin everything eventually. Instead, try to think - "Wow, i had a great road trip with my loved and sexy Gf. How great that I spent time with her when she is with her family. Boring rehearsal? Never mind, I will just send flirty sexy messages to my Gf while she is busy with the rehearsal.... 2
phineas Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 You are 25 years old. It's time to grow up. The kind of "my special day" thinking is for kids. Not adults. And anyway, she did more than enough for you with a cake. This. As long as you got birthday sex you need to stop whining and grow up. i'm 44 and really stopped caring about my birthday after 21. Since then its everyone else who wants to make a todo over my birthday and it gets more annoying as i get older. But i be a good sport and go along with it. I just want to sit home in my underwear by the fire with a growler of awesome craft beer, a cigar and the expendables movies. 2
kgcolonel Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 Analytically thinking this may help....so far, you've had 25 birthdays....the cousin will hopefully only have 1 rehearsal dinner....you'll hopefully have many more birthdays.....putting that in perspective, you have a pretty special GF in that she made it a point to acknowledge your BD and IMO a 25 yo should be weaning themselves from the childish thinking of a BD being "their day" only. You'd better wake up before you lose your GF!! 1
Gaeta Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 I will join the others and say you are being a big baby. Some birthdays are fun to celebrate with a big event like when you change decade, 30th, 40th 50th. Other than that your birthday should be about getting a cake, nothing else. 2
smackie9 Posted August 20, 2016 Posted August 20, 2016 When become an adult, it's not about you anymore, it's about commitment, responsibilities and priorities. Your GF recognized your Bday and made the experience personal and from the heart. But she also had a commitment to her cousin to do this rehearsal....that is just life as an adult. Be a man and stop your %^&(&*$. Be grateful for the things you have in your life and that is having a thoughtful GF. Be gracious not selfish. 4
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