winter2002 Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 I'm feeling pretty sad and thought if I can vent out my feelings I may feel a bit better. Maybe get a few words of encouragement would help. I have been seeing someone exclusively for 3 months. We are both in our 40's and we have been in some pretty bad past relationships and both fear of getting hurt again. We tell and show our affections everyday to give each other a bit of assurance. We had a fallout last week, but still let the other person know that we care. And we will get through it. He hasn't called in a week and thought maybe he need some time and space. Which I respect. After a few days I called and left him a short message that I was concerned about him and that he's in my thoughts. I've had this happen to me before where the person 'ghost' on me. Out of the blue with no warning. That person later let me know that he was afraid. I understand being afraid of being in a relationship, but I don't allow my fears to prevent me from getting into one. I take the chance. A friend had told me once that when he was no longer interested in someone he would "ignore them until she goes away". I don't know if this is the case, but it sure feels like it. I'm trying to keep myself busy and not let this bother me too much. But, the pain & rejected feelings I have are there. And I need a good cry. I had left only that one message for him to get back with me. Touch base. I don't know how long I should wait to get the hint that maybe he wants out. I'm going to eventually want that closure. To move on. I'm also not a quitter and if he is feeling "afraid" I'd like to give him the time/space he needs. I will be patient. It's the not knowing that hurts. I'm not going to sit and feel blue all day. I want to enjoy my holiday weekend. Just want to get this off my chest.
AndrewJ Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Ring him once more and explian how u feel. If he cant respect your feelings I think is time to move on. All the best
lindya Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Originally posted by winter2002 I had left only that one message for him to get back with me. Touch base. I don't know how long I should wait to get the hint that maybe he wants out. I'm going to eventually want that closure. To move on. If moving on simply means getting on with your life, making plans and meeting new people then I don't think it's ever too soon to do it. Moving on needn't stop you from deciding to see him if and when he does call. It just means that instead of waiting for him to call and feeling miserable because he hasn't, you're passing your time happily engaged in whatever you like to do. Then if he does call and you meet up, you'll have plenty to talk about.
Author winter2002 Posted July 4, 2005 Author Posted July 4, 2005 Thanks for replying back to me. I had sent my last email. I needed some closure. Just wished him luck and that I had hoped we could've worked out our differences, but it's time for me to move on. I don't want to hang onto something that's not there. I will not give anyone the pleasure of thinking "I can ignore her feelings and she'll still love me." I am disappointed. I think people who leave you hanging on like this are cowards. And I deserve better than that. Thanks for letting me vent. It has helped.
AndrewJ Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Well perhaps u are doing the right thing by moving on however if this freind of yours needs space maybee sometime is all he needs. In doing so moving on u dont have to close the door to him. If he replys to your email You may see where he stands. "0 Let it in and let out hey Jude youll do" Venting is all good
Author winter2002 Posted July 4, 2005 Author Posted July 4, 2005 I'm shaking right now. I just found his profile on an adult web site with pix. I'm in shock! I'm so stupid.
AndrewJ Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 How recent is his profile on the site? Could be prior to your relationship. Have a cup of tea and chill sister
Author winter2002 Posted July 4, 2005 Author Posted July 4, 2005 It's been updated as of july 4th 2005
AndrewJ Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 He knew U2 were exclusive? You both signed a mental agreement, if that is the case im sorry to say that this doesnt look good for you. However he could be looking for you on those sites perhaps?
Author winter2002 Posted July 4, 2005 Author Posted July 4, 2005 Thanks for talking with me Andrew. I'd like to give you the link. It's very explicit and the photos too. Aalong with messages he's replied to. Yes, we were exclusive and the kids are going to take this hard.I 'm trying to get on this site because i fear he may have posted a pix of me. I don't have any nude shots of me I just don't want my face on any of his disgusting boards.
AndrewJ Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Shizer Winter, Time to pack the bags and run a sfast as you can. By the way is that how u two met?
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