LittleStar27 Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 Hello everyone, I rarely post on forums but today I decided to do so, to explain my story, and listen to your opinion. Me and my boyfriend broke up 5 months ago. It was his decision, because he wasn't into our relationship anymore and instead of continuing hurting me, he prefered letting me go. I didn't took it well, as at that time I was dealing with some health issues (mostly panic attack, anxiety...) that just made me become weaker. He wanted us to stay friends but I disagreed. I needed some time alone, to get better and feel better. I showed him a side of me I didn't know existed because of my anxiety and if I had to meet him one day again randomnly (or not) I wanted to be back to my old self. The peaceful girl. The last time I saw him was at a birthday party. He was talking to me like nothing happened, but was avoiding me at the same time. Since then, it's been 5 months. I had NO contact with him at all. One of my best friend is dating his best friend. She was keeping me updated about his life (for some reasons didn't really see the point of doing so), and she was keeping him updated on mine. Last Saturday, those friends invited me over their house. I told them I didn't want to come if he was there. They told me he couldn't come, so I went. Of course... I fell into that easy trap, he was there, and things went good, too good. We talked, laughed... He brought up some good memories we had, told me to try the 3D at the movie theater in his city (I live 30mins away from him and is the only person I know over there). Sometimes, the conversation goes by "ah yes, WE saw that movie". He asked me how I will be going home later after the party... They were talking about Pokemon Go at some point and he added "They are pokestore in my town. There are actually 4 in the park near my place. Remember the park where we used to go." Later we all went for a walk, and he was always near me. If I was seating a it far away from the others, he would come and sit next to me. During the walk, he suddendly asked me "Aren' you cold like this? Do you want my jacket?" (of course his jacket had my favorite perfume on it). His best friend looked at us and said "aaaw that's so sweet!". It is at this point where I wondered: "Is there something going on that I was trying so hard to ignore?" Did he realise what he had lost? My best friend on Sunday, asked me if I was okay, because she saw that we were "together" a lot of time during the night. I'm totally confused... x)
basil67 Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 Perhaps he wants to get back together. Or perhaps he's wanting "sex with the ex". How about asking your friend who lied to you to get you to come along? She'll know.
Author LittleStar27 Posted August 18, 2016 Author Posted August 18, 2016 I though about that, but he went back to one of his ex a few months back (around June) only for sex. She dumped him quickly, and then since... He's been single. I wish I could ask her but she talks way too easily. If I say, or ask her anything, he'll know... x)
elaine567 Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 As he dumped you and wanted to remain friends, then it is difficult to judge. He maybe now sees you as a friend, a friend with potential benefits??, or he is just at a loose end and can't find anyone else, or he regretting his decision to dump you. Who knows? If he was set up in the same way you were, then he perhaps just put a face on it to keep things friendly, but he may not have been even pleased that his friends decided to do this. I can see the friends scheming away to bring you two back together as it suits them, but is it really what he wants? The problem here is that he did dump you, so even if you did date him again, then you do risk being dumped all over again, probably for the same reasons he dumped you in the first place.
Author LittleStar27 Posted August 18, 2016 Author Posted August 18, 2016 If he was set up in the same way you were, then he perhaps just put a face on it to keep things friendly, but he may not have been even pleased that his friends decided to do this. I can see the friends scheming away to bring you two back together as it suits them, but is it really what he wants? Actually, he knew I was coming, I was the only not knowing. So the set up is only on my side. Our friends knew I won't come if I knew he'll be there. EDIT: The main reason for dumping me is, him being scared to go deep into a relation. He had pretty bad relationship before ours.
elaine567 Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 EDIT: The main reason for dumping me is, him being scared to go deep into a relation. He had pretty bad relationship before ours. Is it not a bit concerning to you that he went back to his ex in June? I presume, the same ex he supposedly had a horrendous relationship with?
Author LittleStar27 Posted August 18, 2016 Author Posted August 18, 2016 Is it not a bit concerning to you that he went back to his ex in June? I presume, the same ex he supposedly had a horrendous relationship with? Not really. I went see someone else as well at the same time period. Not that was not her.
Recommended Posts